Discovering Your Worth As a Woman When You Weren’ t Affirmed at Home as a Young Lady
THIS TOPIC, DISCOVERING YOUR WORTH AS A WOMAN WHEN YOU WEREN’ T AFFIRMED AT HOME AS A YOUNG LADY TOUCHED ME.
By: Noreen Henry Victorious Living Strategist www. VictoriousLiving4U. com
My parents came from the era of survival, so we weren’ t affirmed the way we needed to have been while we were growing up; and while growing up, it didn’ t affect me as my childhood was good. We didn’ t have much, but we had food, a great family and friends, I enjoyed my childhood. It was way into my adulthood that I became aware of how not being affirmed at home as a young lady affected choices I made as a young adult. I’ m happy that I’ m not the kind of person to hold grudges against my parents or blame them for what they did or didn’ t do. We perish for lack of knowledge and they raised us the best way they knew how. I often imagine what it was like for them growing being in a time of survival.
Because of not being affirmed, I didn’ t know my value or worth. I was in a bad relationship where it was functioning in the dysfunction. I was told I had low self-esteem, and other derogatory things by my former spouse, so that didn’ t help to value myself as there was no affirmation there either, and I don’ t blame him as we perish for lack of knowledge. If I knew my worth back then, I would not have stayed in the relationship so long, or even tried to make it work.
Anyhow, the first thing I began saying to myself was I am more than good enough. That was the beginning of my learning about my value and self-worth. I say journey as I still stay words to affirm myself today. With the deep-rooted stuff that was said to me for many years took a toll and layers have been pulled back, revealed and worked on since then.
Because I wasn’ t affirmed growing up, I passed on the same to my children, as the Word says, we perish for lack of knowledge. I’ m glad to have gained this knowledge versus not having it, and my grandchildren get the better version of me.
Here are three quick tips on valuing self:
# 1 Think about how you value yourself today. Jot it down and evaluate it.
# 2 Make a list of affirmations, e. g. I am more than enough, I love myself, etc.
I didn’ t know I wasn’ t valuing myself, it was never talked about, I never heard about it until I was much older, and being in the wrong relationship didn’ t help. I had to learn to value myself.
It was approx. 10 years ago that I started to properly work on my inner self. When I began attending conferences, they would talk about affirmations and give exercises to help.
I was volunteering at a Lisa Nichols conference and the exercise she did was have everyone stand up with the volunteers whispering things, we should have got at a young age, in the attendees’ ears. I don’ t remember the words anymore, but they made an impact on me. During that exercise, I started bawling uncontrollably as it was the things being said that I didn’ t receive growing up. I had never cried like that in my life. I couldn’ t believe that happened, especially that I was a volunteer.
# 3 Make a daily habit to check in on yourself, how do you see yourself, how you are feeling, etc.
Today, when I get up, I say my affirmations, one is I love, value, and honor my beautiful self.
This was a quick synopsis of not being affirmed at home as a young lady. To learn more, contact me at noreen @ victoriouslivingculture. com
There is always hope to value yourself and see your worth!
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