The Coshocton County Beacon March 28, 2018 - Page 12

12 THE BEACON www . coshoctonbeacontoday . com MARCH 28 , 2018
Josie Sellers | Beacon
Ridgewood High School softball players Ashley Green , Cole Moore and Alexis Griffith smile for a photo while visiting with students at Hopewell School . The softball team from RHS came to Hopewell School on March 19 to visit with the students and participate in activities with them in the gym . For more photos , visit www . coshoctonbeacontoday . com .
By Josie Sellers josie @ coshoctoncountybeacon . com
COSHOCTON – Students at Hopewell School had some special guests visit them on Monday , March 19 .
Members of the Ridgewood High School softball team came to do activities with the students in their classrooms , dance with them and play games in the gym .
“ It ’ s been pretty fun ,” said Cole Moore , a freshman on the team .
Taking a field trip to Hopewell is a tradition for the team
Ed Gallagher | Contributed
Ridgewood High School sophomore Hannah Soles is pictured dancing with some of the preschool students at

RHS softball team visits Hopewell School

that she and Ashley Green were happy to participate in . “ It ’ s been a cool experience spending time with the kids ,” said Green , another freshman member of the team . Coach Tina Palmiter works at Hopewell School and feels the field trip is a good experience for her athletes .
“ I want them to see that these kids are no different than a typical child ,” she said . “ They just need a little extra help and love .”
Hopewell School has a preschool program for children with and without disabilities and a school-age program

Being Frank About Fatherhood

COSHOCTON - The things I learned from my mom and dad on being a dad made a lot of sense when it came to “ guy stuff ” because I was from a family of three boys . However and I think this was some sort of “ Poetic Justice ”, I got the opportunity to deal with five girls and one boy . Some things I had to make up on the fly because of growing up with only one woman in the house . Suddenly , I am surrounded by women and only a younger son to commiserate with . That being said somehow they all survived and have gone on to productive lives .
I think fathers have been given a tremendous opportunity to influence the lives of their daughters – either positively or negatively . How a father treats his wife often will mirror how he treats his daughter . This in turn will shape how she views herself and how she expects to be treated by other men for the rest of her life . Girls need the following intangibles from their fathers . Be aware of these needs and focus on discovering ways to fulfill them in your daughter ’ s life even from an early age . Practicing Consistency Perhaps the most important principle a girl needs her father to practice is consistency . Her world , especially during adolescence , will be one of mercurial ups and downs . She needs her dad ’ s steady guidance and calm , objective presence . She needs a father who is balanced : strict but kind , loving , and forgiving . She needs a rock that she can depend on when all else is falling down around her .
Consistency is important when raising all children but especially with girls . Daughters thrive on knowing they can depend on their fathers to always be there for them . When she is little this might mean pushing her on the swings or tucking her in at night . But as she gets older she needs your consistent presence and level demeanor .
I am not sure how I did in all those areas but judging from the kind of guys they have married , how they make their way in life and their interest in coming home to hang out with us and their siblings I think me and my wife got something right .
Of course , this conjures up a story about being consistent . Like most children going to bed at night can be somewhat of a process , eating dinner , picking up toys , giving baths and then putting people in bed and
having them actually go to sleep can be a task that often gets left for the mom to do and or the kids to somehow manage on their own . Initially I found myself having to go upstairs and “ settle them down .” They would be talking , laughing , getting out of bed and all the things kids do to fight going to sleep . The temptation is to turn something that is supposed to be a time of winding down and relaxing into some sort of “ battle ” where people get upset because your kiddos are not complying . I found myself saying things like “ go to sleep or else ” multiple times every evening without much success .
I think most people figure out something quicker than I did ; like give them a warm bath , read them a story , let them stay up until they pass out or any number of things that they find that seems to work . I decided on a ritual which included a time of asking them how their day went , did they have anything they needed to share with me and last but not least pulling out my guitar and playing some slower choruses that we had learned at church . All of this would take approximately half an hour , but it was much better than tramping up and down the stairs seemingly for hours trying to get
Josie Sellers | Beacon
Hopewell School . Soles is a member of Ridgewood ’ s softball team which came to visit the school on March 19 .
for those with disabilities . “ We didn ’ t get to come last year and the kids were asking me if we would get to go back this year ,” Palmiter said . “ They love to come here .”
Alexis Griffith , a junior on the team , was definitely glad they were able to work the trip into their schedule this year .
“ I love it ,” she said . “ We have so much fun with them and there is always a little one that attaches to you and wants to hold your hand .”
them to give into the “ sandman .”
I know I subjected all my kids to the “ ritual ” and I cannot tell you exactly when we stopped but I can tell you it was effective in getting them to wind down , end the day on a positive note and go to sleep with minimal fuss . I suppose a bonus is that they all are great singers , have rhythm and have established “ rituals ” of their own with their kids that seem to work .
As the kids got older and we were more crunched for time because everybody was busy , we managed to transfer the “ bed time ritual ” to diner time . We would all eat together typically four or five times a week and find out from each of them what was going on in their lives , ask for at least one positive , and believe it or not somewhere before the end of the dinner we would make up songs and do accents to reflect the type of song we were singing .
In the end , as a dad I think it is up to you to figure out a way to help carry mom ’ s load , create your own “ consistency ” with your kids and have some fun .
Editor ’ s note : Ed Gallagher is a Coshocton County Fatherhood Initiative committee member .
12 THE BEACON www.coshoctonbeacontoday.com MARCH 28, 2018 Josie Sellers | Beacon Ridgewood High School softball players Ashley Green, Cole Moore and Alexis Griffi th smile for a photo while visiting with students at Hopewell School. The softball team from RHS came to Hopewell School on March 19 to visit with the students and participate in activities with them in the gym. For more photos, visit www. coshoctonbeacontoday.com. Ridgewood High School sophomore Hannah Soles is pictured dancing with some of the preschool students at Josie Sellers | Beacon Hopewell School. Soles is a member of Ridgewood’s softball team which came to visit the school on March 19. RHS softball team visits Hopewell School By Josie Sellers josie@coshoctoncountybeacon.com COSHOCTON – Students at Hopewell School had some special guests visit them on Monday, March 19. Members of the Ridgewood High School softball team came to do activities with the students in their class- rooms, dance with them and play games in the gym. “It’s been pretty fun,” said Cole Moore, a freshman on the team. Taking a fi eld trip to Hopewell is a tradition for the team that she and Ashley Green were happy to participate in. “It’s been a cool experience spending time with the kids,” said Green, another freshman member of the team. Coach Tina Palmiter works at Hopewell School and feels the fi eld trip is a good experience for her athletes. “I want them to see that these kids are no diff erent than a typical child,” she said. “Th ey just need a little extra help and love.” Hopewell School has a preschool program for children with and without disabilities and a school-age program for those with disabilities. “We didn’t get to come last year and the kids were ask- ing me if we would get to go back this year,” Palmiter said. “Th ey love to come here.” Alexis Griffi th, a junior on the team, was defi nitely glad they were able to work the trip into their schedule this year. “I love it,” she said. “We have so much fun with them and there is always a little one that attaches to you and wants to hold your hand.” Being Frank About Fatherhood Ed Gallagher | Contributed COSHOCTON - Th e things I learned from my mom and dad on being a dad made a lot of sense when it came to “guy stuff ” because I was from a family of three boys. However and I think this was some sort of “Poetic Justice”, I got the opportunity to deal with fi ve girls and one boy. Some things I had to make up on the fl y because of growing up with only one woman in the house. Suddenly, I am surrounded by women and only a younger son to commiserate with. Th at being said somehow they all survived and have gone on to productive lives. I think fathers have been given a tre- mendous opportunity to infl uence the lives of their daughters – either positively or negatively. How a father treats his wife often will mirror how he treats his daugh- ter. Th is in turn will shape how she views herself and how she expects to be treated by other men for the rest of her life. Girls need the following intangibles from their fathers. Be aware of these needs and focus on discovering ways to fulfi ll them in your daughter’s life even from an ɱ䁅)AɅѥ ͥѕ)Aɡ́ѡЁхЁɥ)ɰ́ȁѡȁѼɅѥ)ͥѕ丁!ȁݽɱ䁑ɥ)͍ݥɍɥ)ݹ̸Ḿȁéѕ)եѥٔɕ͕)Ḿѡȁݡ́ɥ)Ё٥ɝ٥M)ɽѡЁ͡ݡ)͔́ݸɽչȸ) ͥѕ䁥́хЁݡɅ̴)ɕЁݥѠɱ̸)՝ѕ́ѡɥٔݥѡ䁍)ѡȁѡ́Ѽ݅́ѡɔ)ȁѡ]́͡ѱѡ́)͡ȁѡݥ́ȁՍ)ȁЁи Ё́́͡ȁ͡)́ȁͥѕЁɕ͕ٕ)ȸ)$Ёɔ܁$ѡ͔ɕ)ЁՑɽѡ́ѡ)ٔɥ܁ѡ䁵ѡȁ݅䁥)ѡȁѕɕЁѼ)ЁݥѠ́ѡȁͥ́$ѡ)ݥЁͽѡɥи)=͔ѡ́ɕ́ѽ䁅)ͥѕи1Ёɕ)ѼЁЁͽݡЁɼ)̰ѥȰѽ̰٥)ѡ́ѡѥ)٥ѡՅ䁝Ѽͱ)хͬѡЁѕ́ЁȁѡѼ)ȁѡ́Ѽͽ܁)ѡȁݸ%ѥ$չ͕٥)Ѽх́q͕ѱѡݸt)Qݽձх՝ѥ)Ёѡѡ́́Ѽ)ЁѼͱQѕхѥ́Ѽ)ɸͽѡѡЁ͕́Ѽ)ѥݥݸɕ᥹Ѽ)ͽͽЁqѱtݡɔ)͕Ё͔ȁ́ɔЁ)$չ͕ͅ她ѡ́qѼ)ͱȁ͗tձѥѥٕ́䁕ٕ)ݥѡЁՍՍ̸)$ѡЁɔЁͽѡ)եȁѡ$쁱ٔѡ݅ɴ)Ѡɕѡѽ䰁Ёѡх)չѥѡ́Ёȁ䁹յȁѡ)ѡЁѡ䁙ѡЁ͕́Ѽݽɬ$)ɥՅݡՑѥͭ)ѡ܁ѡȁݕаѡ䁡ٔ)ѡѡ䁹Ѽ͡ɔݥѠ)ЁЁЁЁձЁ䁝եх)她ͽͱݕȁ͕́ѡЁݔ)ɹЁɍѡ́ݽձ)хɽ᥵ѕ䁡ȰЁЁ݅)ՍѕȁѡɅݸ)ѡх͕́䁙ȁ́她Ѽ)ѡѼٔѼѡqͅt)$܁$Չѕ䁭́Ѽѡqɥд)Յt$Ёѕԁᅍѱݡݔ)ѽЁ$ѕԁЁ݅́ѥٔ)ѥѡѼݥݸѡ)䁽ͥѥٔєѼͱݥѠ)̸$͔́́ѡ)ѡ䁅ɔɕЁ̰ͥٔɡѡ)ٔх͡qɥՅϊtѡȁݸ)ݥѠѡȁ́ѡЁ͕Ѽݽɬ)́ѡ́Ёȁݔݕɔɔ)չȁѥ͔ٕ剽݅)䰁ݔѼɅ͙ȁѡq)ѥɥՅtѼȁѥ]ݽձ)ѽѡȁ䁙ȁȁٔѥ́ݕ)ЁɽѡݡЁ݅)ѡȁٕ̰ͬȁЁЁ)ͥѥٔٔЁȁЁͽݡɔ)ɔѡѡȁݔݽձ)ͽ́́Ѽɕ)ѡͽݔݕɔͥ)%ѡ́$ѡЁ́Ѽ)ѼɔЁ݅Ѽ䁵e)ɕєȁݸqͥѕtݥѠ)ȁ́ٔͽո)ѽˊéєȁ́ ͡ѽ) չѡɡ%ѥѥٔѕ)ȸ