The Copa Issue 14 Aug/Sep 2015 | Page 26

With Evelyn Fuller 26 Hello Evelyn, I did the unthinkable…I fell for a guy who has a wife, kids, and a great personality. I know. I know. I know. Before you toss my question out, I have to tell you, I know he is looking to separate from his wife as they gone their different ways. We are all in the same social circle and not only has it become obvious, she told me herself. I am friends with his wife and over the years, I have found myself attracted to him more and more, even though I am constantly telling myself to stop…but I can’t. I don’t want to cause scandal and he is on my mind so much, I don’t feel the need to even date others as he gives me butterflies in my stomach every time I see him. This doesn’t happen with anyone else. It is all so complicated and I don’t think I can just shut off the feelings for him that get stronger. Besides go jump off a cliff, is there any advice you can help me out with? Evelyn: First and most important “Sistas before Mistas”, you don’t mess with a friend’s “man”! I’m sure she confided in you about their relationship for sympathy, not as a green light for you to move on in! Put on your big girl panties and move on! Just a fool in love, from the Villages of RED from, Definitely Not Craig the Office Mack Hi Evelyn, My girlfriend shows up to my work every day and thinks it is cool to just stop in. I don’t know how to tell her nicely not to do it. I am a supervisor, so she knows I set the rules but I feel she is just spying on me and the women at my job…. is there anything I can do to not set her off? Evelyn: You could find a job that only employs men. You set the example, if every employee’s boy/girl friend came in every day no work would ever get done! The green eyed monster is going to always be there, tell her to stop coming by every day and deal with the temper tantrum like a man! If she can’t handle it, oh well, you were looking for a girl friend when you met her (and they are easier to find than a new job!). Wassup Evelyn, Are there swingers in Maricopa, and how do I get in contact with them? “Ya know what I’m sayin!” from Hidden Valley Evelyn: I’m sure there are many swingers in Maricopa, including a few whose spouses don’t know it! You could try posting an ISO (In Search Of) on Maricopa Bulletin Board or one of the many Maricopa Buy, Sell, Trade pages on FaceBook. The only swingers I know personally moved to Wisconsin.