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6 . Your co-workers won ’ t end meetings on time ? This is an exasperating problem . You ’ re supposed to be someplace else , but you ’ re trapped in a meeting that ’ s going long . Sometimes , this is inevitable , but if you find it happening over and over , identify the problem . Is too little time allotted to meetings that deserve more time ? Is the weekly staff meeting 60 minutes of work crammed into 20 minutes ? If you face this issue repeatedly , there ’ s probably an identifiable problem — and once you identify it , you can develop strategies to solve it — e . g ., sticking to an agenda ; circulating information by email ; not permitting discussions about contentious philosophical questions not relevant to the tasks at hand , etc . ( This last problem is surprisingly widespread , in my experience .)
7 . You haven ' t considered how your behavior affects someone else ? A friend was chronically late dropping off her son at sports activities until he said , “ You ’ re always late dropping me off because it doesn ’ t affect you , but you ’ re always on time to pick me up , because you ’ d be embarrassed to be the last parent at pickup .” She was never late again .
8 . You hate your destination so much you want to postpone showing up for as long as possible ? If you dread going to work that much , or you hate school so deeply , or wherever your destination might be , you ’ re giving yourself a clear signal that you need think about making a change in your life . Late or not , if you find yourself rushing around every morning , consider waking up earlier ( see no . 1 above ). Yes , it ’ s tough to give up those last precious moments of sleep , and it ’ s even tougher to go to bed earlier and cut into what , for many people , is their leisure time . But it helps . I get up at 6 a . m . so I have an hour to myself before I have to wrestle everyone out of bed . This has made a huge improvement in our mornings . Because I ’ m organized and ready by 7 a . m ., I can be focused on getting all of us out the door .
Gretchen Rubin
Gretchen Rubin is one of today ’ s most influential and thoughtprovoking observers of happiness and human nature . She ’ s known for her ability to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity , in a way that ’ s accessible to a wide audience . She ’ s the author of many books , including the blockbuster New York Times best-sellers The Four Tendencies , Better Than Before , and The Happiness Project . She has an enormous readership , both in print and online , and her books have sold almost three million copies worldwide , in more than 30 languages . ( The Happiness Project spent two years on the best-seller list .) On her top-ranking , award-winning podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin , she discusses happiness and good habits with her sister Elizabeth Craft . She ’ s been interviewed by Oprah , eaten dinner with Daniel Kahneman , walked arm-in-arm with the Dalai Lama , had her work written up in a medical journal and been an answer on the game show Jeopardy ! Gretchen Rubin started her career in law and was clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O ’ Connor when she realized she wanted to be a writer . Raised in Kansas City , she lives in New York City with her husband ; they have two daughters ( a college freshman and a seventh-grader ).

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6. Your co-workers won’t end meetings on time? This is an exasperating problem. You’re supposed to be someplace else, but you’re trapped in a meeting that’s going long. Sometimes, this is inevitable, but if you find it happening over and over, identify the problem. Is too little time allotted to meetings that deserve more time? Is the weekly staff meeting 60 minutes of work crammed into 20 minutes? If you face this issue repeatedly, there’s probably an identifiable problem — and once you identify it, you can develop strategies to solve it — e.g., sticking to an agenda; circulating information by email; not permitting discussions about contentious philosophical questions not relevant to the tasks at hand, etc. (This last problem is surprisingly widespread, in my experience.) 7. You haven't considered how your behavior affects someone else? A friend was chronically late dropping off her son at sports activities until he said, “You’re always late dropping me off because it doesn’t affect you, but you’re always on time to pick me up, because you’d be embarrassed to be the last parent at pickup.” She was never late again. 8. Y RFRW"FW7FF6V6PvBF7GR6vrWf"2r076&SbRG&VBvrFv&FBV6 RFR666FVWǒ"vW&WfW"W FW7FF֖vB&R^( &RvfrW'6Vb6V"6vFBRVVBF&WBr6vRW"ƖfRFR"BbRfBW'6Vb'W6r&V@WfW'&r66FW"vrWV&ƖW"6VP&fRW2N( 2FVvFvfRWF6R7@&V6W2VG2b6VWBN( 2WfVFVvW FvF&VBV&ƖW"B7WBFvBf"琧VR2FV"V7W&RFR'WBBV2ऒvWBWBb6fRW"Fח6V`&Vf&RfRFw&W7FRWfW'RWBb&VBF22FRVvR&fVVBW &w2&V6W6R( &v旦VBB&VG'p6&Rf7W6VBvWGFrbW2WBFPF"w&WF6V'V&w&WF6V'V&2RbFF( 27BfVVFBFVvBЧ&fr'6W'fW'2bW72BVGW&R6^( 2vf"W"&ƗGFF7FB6fW6WFV2vFV B6&GvFN( 266W76&RFvFRVFV6R6^( 2FRWF"b&26VFrFR&6'W7FW"Wr&FW0&W7B6VW'2FRfW"FVFV6W2&WGFW"F&Vf&RBFRW70&V7B6R2V&W2&VFW'6&F&BBƖRBW &2fR6B7BF&VR֖Ɩ6W2v&GvFR&RF3wVvW2FRW72&V7B7VBGvV'2FR&W7B6VW"Ɨ7B␤W"F&涖rv&BvrF67BW"vFw&WF6V'V&6RF67W76W2W72BvB&G2vFW"67FW"VƗ&WF7&gB6^( 2&VVFW'fWvVB'&VFVFW"vFFVVvƶVB&֖&vFFRFBW"v&w&GFVWVF6W&B&VV7vW"FRvR6rV&Gw&WF6V'V&7F'FVBW"6&VW"rBv26W&rf"7W&VP6W'BW7F6R6G&F( 6"vV6R&VƗVB6RvFVBF&Rw&FW"&6VB626G6RƗfW2Wr&6GvFW"W6&CFWfRGvFVvFW'26VvRg&W6B6WfVFw&FW"w&WF6V'V&6У