Top Bridesmaids Tips!
So, you've been asked to play a supporting role to the bride on her big day! Here are some tips for being the bestest, most reliable and just downright fabulous maid!
Form an alliance with the groomsmen-
No!- Not that kind!! Seriously, try to work with the groom's attendants. You may need their support when dealing with guests- whether it be transport issues, drunken behaviour or generally keeping everyone entertained and peaceful! Although the happy couple or their parents may be hosting the celebrations, you can consider yourself a co-host!
Emotional support-
One of the most important roles for a bridesmaid is to be there when the bride needs your support the most. There will be unavoidable stresses and also situations that may be avoided with a little thought and preparation. Do not trash anyone else. It's never a good time to join in any bickering or to give any opinions of other people's behaviour. Just be a good friend and listen!
Attending appointments-
Make sure that you are free to attend, most importantly, any bridal and bridesmaid fittings, but also any other meeting where the bride may need support. For example, meeting the florist, choosing jewellery and accessories. It may be no harm to also schedule in a few trips to the beautician or a relaxing spa treat!
Accept the bride's style-
You may have your own ideas and vision's for your friend's big day, but respect the bride's choices. Perhaps her dream wedding dress si something you would never be seen dead in? It's not your day. Ask the bride what she loves about it and try to see it from her point of view. If you think she deserves better, find a nice way of saying it, but be aware that you may be insulting her taste!
Guest lists and accommodation-
Sticking to numbers for the reception can be tricky and stressful for any bride and groom, especially when dealing with faraway or overseas guests who may or may not be able to make it, not to mention any family bickering! There can be certain matters that you might want to keep from the couple, to keep stress to a minimum. Help out where you can with RSVP lists and relaying travel information. It will be much appreciated!
Gifts from the bridal party-
Of course, we know you have been asked to be bridesmaid as an honour, which already may requires a lot of commitment, both of time and money. Rather than stress over offering a large or expensive gift- consider working with the other bridesmaids or even groomsmen to offer a special treat from you all. Perhaps some entertainment at the reception as a nice surprise, or a contribution to the honeymoon. There are plenty of little ways you can enhance their trip, by phoning ahead to arrange a thoughtful treat, or preparing some helpful essentials for the suitcases.
The Hen Party-
Be considerate of the bride-to-be's tastes when arranging the hen night. If the bride would prefer afternoon tea or a pampering weekend, she may not respond well to being ambushed into a night of drunken behaviour and strippers! Prepare a few treats and surprises, but try to avoid any situations that may leave the bride tearful, and not in a sentimental way!
Help with the gifts-
You can help to communicate the wishes of the bride and groom and keep note of gifts received to assist with thank you cards. Don't forget to transport the gifts from the venue- taking the burden from the newlyweds and leave them free to enjoy their first day (and night) as newlyweds!
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