The Belly Dance Chronicles Jan/Feb/Mar 2020 Volume 18, Issue 1 | Page 33

Suhaila & Amaya female friendships are bitchy, toxic, or competitive, history shows that women are just the opposite. Throughout the world, resilient women find and congregate with each other for strength. Taking the time to build good friendships and a healthy social support network is a wise investment into health, happiness, and well-being. Today’s modern and hectic world chips away at the deterioration of this female connection. Feeling isolated? Treat yourself to something you enjoy. Many of our readers already know the benefits of our beautiful dance. It is well known that our bodies get stronger; that we learn an aesthetic skill; improve our posture; we learn about music and culture; but perhaps the most important benefit of this dance is the development of a sisterhood and social interaction. In my 40+ year dance career, I have gathered dance sisters from all over the world. It is a joyful experience when we run into each other at dance events. Typically, our chatter easily takes right off from where we last left it. I am convinced that these connections are the secret to the success of my annual Wise Woman Retreat and even larger events such as the Yaa Halla Y’all festival. These Diana Soto & Amaya gatherings of mostly women provide a space for sharing, eating, laughing, crying, and endless oxytocin-producing laughter. Unpressured conversations with women take on a different flavor and deliciousness that isn’t found with mixed groups of men and women. Dance workshops are often the only place in our typical lives where it is all about glitter, giggles, and connection. It is like a three-day therapy session! We bond in dance class, at the bar, poolside, at vendor’s stations—it is all about us! No matter what your age, treasure your girlfriends for as long as possible, as they can become the backbone of your support system. Meet you at the proverbial red tent somewhere soon! AMAYA Amaya resides in the Land of Enchantment, also known as New Mexico.  She enjoys an eclectic life of green roasted chilis, sunflower harvesting, writing, sunset gazing, fire fly dancing and scratching the heads of  her boys, Mr. Smith, Buddy (rogue Scottie Terriers) and Partner Pete.  For more info on Amaya’s dance see www.AmayaDances.com January 2020  The Belly Dance Chronicles 33