The Aisle November 2014 #1 | Page 10

Text: BlackLotus, Editor: BlackLotus Photograph: BlackLotus Before You Say I DO THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO SAY I DO OR EVEN ACCEPT THE PROPOSAL. Before you say I Do Getting married on IMVU can be taken two ways. A big deal for some who have found love and just a game for others who just want a status change. This report is for those who have found love in a avatar and want to spend their IMVU life with said person. 10 – THE AISLE Check Gender Some things to take into account; just because you’ve fallen head over heels with the avatar, doesn’t mean that avatar share the same feelings. Some people are really here to play and your emotions are not an exception. Sometimes, feelings just change over time and there is not much to be done or said about that. Make sure you’ve taken enough time to properly get to know the person. I’ve seen in so many cases, people get so wrapped up in the “honeymoon” phase, that they will say yes to anything, including a marriage proposal. To later find out that this person isn’t who they say they are or their intentions isn’t what they said there were.This report is to hopefully save you from unnecessary heartache and disappointment. Let’s begin. Before you say I do, check the gender! If you are not lesbian/gay, check to see if the person is the correct gender. IMVU has a lot of females pretending to be males. Their Also, check the pattern of this person you gender on their profile card says male, their are marrying. If this person has had more orientation says straight, and most recently, than two IMVU marriages, a pattern of hidden. Before any marriage proposal or cheating, or you got this person while they saying yes to one, u should by that were cheating on his/her relationtime either voice or video chatted ship, please be aware it will via Skype, Oovoo, Yahoo, or happen to you. How this IMVU has a lot phone. There should be no person has ended their last of females pretending excuse as to you getting a relationship, will determine to be males. Their gender on divorce because you all of how they will treat you their profile card says male, a sudden found out the and their intentions as far their orientation says straight, person you were with all as fidelity is concerned. and most recently, hidden. Bethat time was a female. Do not be fooled by fore any marriage proposal or You leave the door open this person sending saying yes to one, u should by to people assuming you you gifts, credits, or that time either voice or video knew already and you’re subscriptions. It does chatted via Skype, Oovoo, just mad about being not mean they love you Yahoo, or phone. divorced when it all comes more. You don’t know out. what happened in that last relationship, only what your Before you say I do, fiance is telling you. Be your check commitment. own investigator and make the judgement on your own. If your fiance still has ties to the ex, find out why and if there is a serious need for If the person you are with has a real life communication. There is nothing wrong relationship, do yourself a favor and try to with still being friends with an ex, howstay clear of this person. Yes, some of you ever, if there has been bad blood between may fool yourself into saying this is just a u and the ex, your fiance should not have any contact if he/she wants to preserve your relationship. Yes, in many cases there are children involved. But remember, this is IMVU and if your fiance is truly valuing you, he/she will either make a new account for those children if no one is role playing them or leave that relationship up to that avatar child. If these are furniture babies, there is no reason or excuse for the ex to have communication with your fiance and vice versa. If they are making an argument to that fact, there are still feelings involved and they should be reviewed. If your fiance is sending messages to the ex and she shows you that he/she is still trying to win their heart, believe it. Don’t make it into a fight about who loves who more. It’s clear that this person is just being greedy and trying to play the both of you. Find the strength within yourself to love you more and let that relationship go. Because if it’s not the ex then it’s definitely someone else in PC. ON PHOTO: Sadity and Caice. Mgr of Black Empire 11 – THE AISLE