What if I told you that 90% of our problems are self-inflicted?
I remember vividly when this idea was first shared with me, by my now husband. I was about 23 at the time. And honestly, I was well entrenched in the victim mindset, with an entitlement grenade ready to go at any moment. I was still mentally and emotionally immature, and looking at everyone but the person in the mirror for the cause of all of my problems. Can you relate? Do you sometimes, or even often, find yourself in the same types of relationship drama, family drama, work drama, and so on? Are you sick and tired of it all yet?
Well then, it’s nice to share this perspective with you! I’m Brandy – The DisConnector, and I help others pull the plug on dysfunction, one area of life at a time.
Growing up, I got the impression that life just happens, and we have no control over it. It’s true, we don’t have control over the freak accidents, chance encounters, and natural disasters. But most things that involve other people can be controlled, if we decide to be accountable in the one thing that is always true; no matter what situations we find ourselves in we are the common denominator. Our decisions can help us: limit, eliminate, or even avoid stupid, painful, annoying, and expensive experiences. But we first have to acknowledge that our decisions are little bricks that we lay, that eventually build the paths to our different outcomes in life’s occurrences.