How to be Present for Someone Grieving When it ’ s Physically Impossible
By AMBER GRUBB
Grief is a very lonely journey that many people travel at some point in their lives . Even when others are “ there ,” it doesn ’ t always feel like it . As friends or family who want to support someone on the desolate road called grief , it ’ s difficult in the best circumstances . When you can ’ t physically be there with them , whether it ’ s due to a pandemic or not , it becomes even more challenging . Often hugs or merely sitting in the same room with someone can do more than any words , but when touch isn ’ t an option , try something else .
The simplicity of mailing a card or handwritten letter should not be dismissed quickly ! People who are sad and grieving do not need you to give them the most memorable words of wisdom ever written ; simply writing , “ I love you , and I ’ m thinking of you ” can make all the difference . Physical mail usually only consists of advertisements or
The simplicity of mailing a card or handwritten letter should not be dismissed quickly !
bills , so just getting a lovely note from a friend when they least expect it can brighten their day !
Call them and send simple texts , letting them know you are thinking of them . Send a sympathy gift , like their favorite snacks , comfy socks , or a good book . Not everything has to address their loss or grief directly , but make sure you ’ re not avoiding it or seem to be pushing them to “ move on .” They will understand when you remind them that you are thinking of them .
One thing that can be of great comfort is compiling photos and stories of the deceased and sending them to the bereaved . You will most likely have photos they have never seen and memories they have never known . This is a unique gift that they will cherish for a lifetime .
If you or your friends need help in working through their grief , at Home Hospice , we can help — just give us a call at 903-868-9315 or 940-665-9891 , we ’ re always here .
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