Tees Business Tees Business issue 17 | Page 77

Serving the Teesside Business Community | 77 We need to talk The Teesside business community was rocked when popular businessman Russ Devereux took his own life in May 2018. Tees Business co-editor Dave Allan talks to Catherine Devereux about her husband, who ran the family- owned Billingham business, Devereux Transport and Distribution. In Russ’s memory, Catherine has launched the Russ Devereux Headlight Project to deliver emotional resilience programmes in Teesside schools in the belief that early intervention can enable children to cope in later life with stressful situations and crisis. Can you tell us about Russ as a husband and dad? He was a gorgeous husband. He was completely devoted as a dad and the girls adored him. He was loving, loyal, kind, smart and modest. He also had a cracking sense of humour, helped by working in an office full of truck drivers. What did running Devereux Transport mean to Russ? It was the family business, so it was part of him. His granddad set it up from a handcart and Russ had followed in his dad’s footsteps. He had a duty for it to be successful and it was a huge responsibility, given it had grown to the size it had in recent years and people relied on the business for their livelihoods. Can you describe the impact of losing Russ? No words can describe the pain that you feel when you lose somebody who you love as much as we loved him and who was such a central part of our family. It is devastating. I never expected I would be in this position because Russ was a well- balanced guy - we had a lovely lifestyle, a happy marriage, we were really lucky. I will never get over losing him but this is now my reality and I know I have to walk a path without him, as hard as that is to deal with. Do you feel what happened to Russ shows why it’s important people are encouraged to talk when they are stressed? Russ was the last person you’d expect to take his own life because he always managed stress well. But this one incident that happened at work and sadly resulted in someone losing their life had a catastrophic impact on him, because of the responsibility he felt. He became ill very quickly. He’d stopped eating and sleeping properly. We didn’t realise how poorly he had become in such a short space of time, a matter of days. What I really don’t want is for my girls to feel ashamed that Russ killed himself because he was very poorly. “My message would be to talk about those things that cause anxiety or stress so you can get help. Don’t feel ashamed to admit you might not be coping. “ Many of those who’ll read this article will have stressful situations in their working lives. Is there a key message you want to give to them? My message is especially for men, who internalise a lot of these things. They don’t talk like women do. Russ wouldn’t have picked up the phone to speak to someone. So my message would be to talk about those things that cause anxiety or stress so you can get help. Don’t feel ashamed to admit you might not be coping. Despite your grief, were you moved at just how much affection and respect there was for Russ from so many people? I want to thank everyone who attended his funeral. I was so grateful for the time they took to be there. I knew he was well respected but I don’t think he realised. The support people have given me has helped in my ongoing recovery, especially Maxine Alton, a counsellor who was recommended to me via a friend of funeral director Rob Crake’s. She helped me through those first months and saw me at my very worst. In those early days there was a point when I thought I couldn’t carry on without him but we have three girls who bring me such joy and I knew I had to carry on for them. Catherine Devereux hopes the tragedy of her husband Russ taking his own life will encourage others suffering stress to talk about their anxieties. How did you come to decide on the Headlight Project as a suitable project in Russ’s memory? I knew I wanted to do something with the Philanthropic Foundation because Russ loved the work they did. Working within an academy trust, head teachers told me there was a desperate need for child counselling but often not the necessary budget. I couldn’t have done it without the help of Maxine. To start with, we’re working with up to ten schools but we’re looking to open it out to more schools before too long. To make a donation to the Russ Devereux Headlight Project, visit teessidecharity.org.uk