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5. Be intentional Invite her to parties, events, and game nights with your friends. I called Kristen every day when I finally got her number. I sent her encouraging text messages and inspirational Bible verses. I told her I wanted to be her man on our fifth date. She wasn’ t ready, but she knew what I wanted. I gave her the time she needed with no stipulations, while still pursuing her intentionally. She told me she loved that.
6. Speak well of her in front of other people Hold her hand. Pick-up artists recommend saying backhanded compliments, but nothing beats a genuine and sincere compliment. A backhanded compliment might work for a one-night stand, but come on, this is a poisonous ingredient in trying to form a long-term relationship. Treat her just as kindly in front of friends and family as you do when you are alone.
7. Be attentive Show her that you care for her and her needs. Pay attention to the small details. Girls care about the small stuff, big time. For instance, on our first date, I knew Kristen was a vegetarian, so I took her to a vegetarian restaurant called Café Gratitude. Listen to what she has to say.
8. Be protective Don’ t let her walk alone to her car. If she’ s going on a jog or walk at night, tell her you want to go to keep her safe. If she’ s going to the gas station at night, go with her. If you’ re at a club and she needs to go to the restroom, take her there and wait outside the door.
9. Be a good listener Ask solid open-ended questions that include“ what,”“ how,” and“ why.” If you’ re doing most of the talking, you’ re not getting very far with her. Show her you care with body language and by repeating back some of what she just told you.
10. Be romantic Plan ahead. What do you want your love story to be? You are the writer. When people ask where your first kiss was, you don’ t want her to answer with the driveway or that you were drunk at a party. The night I kissed Kristen for the first time, I wanted it to be special. I took her to an overlook on Mulholland Drive. We stood on top of the city, and that night I was her very own Superman. It was a special moment and I ended up proposing to her there.
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