Teach Middle East Magazine May-June 2019 Issue 5 Volume 6 | Page 48

Personal development WHAT’S DRIVING YOU? BY LISA FÁTIMAH It’s time for truth telling. While matriculating within a western “ university system, I discovered craquelure within the “art” of academia: Debt design. Academic poker. Carrot-Style Graduation Gimmicks. Bait and Switch Books. Bacchanal Behaviors. Made up Marketed Majors. Alternative Roads. Attention Opportunities. Resilient Achievement Drivers. And yes, at times, racism was real. However, after six years of undergraduate and post graduate school, there were only three life lessons learned that resonated, proved impactful, everlasting, and in my observant opinion, are the archetypes that allow us to LIVE LIFE and not fall victim to socialised hunger and drives to achieve. They are: 1. ALWAYS Begin with the end in mind. 2. ALWAYS listen to your gut instincts, regardless of how deeply vested you are in time, relationships or money. It is MORE than okay to change directions. 3. ASK: Where am I going and why? There are many reasons why we become victims to our own drive and 48 | May - Jun 2019 | | ambition. Some of these reasons are obvious and tangible; others may be whispers hidden deep within. At times, we don’t notice what causes us to become so relentlessly compelled to accomplish, that we do not enjoy life. But the causes are there, hanging heavy, an invisible shadow cascading, and at times, careening into our souls. The sedimentary, subtle, soul-erosion voices whisper about what we should do, where we should be, what we should have, how we should look, who should see us, know our names, and the “right” events to attend. It can be a tetchy thieving elixir of time. Right now, if you are able, I want you to grab a full, unopened bottle of drinking water (preferably in a glass bottle (of course, sadly, plastics are plentiful)). Look closely at your bottle of water. Note: This one (1) water bottle, born pure, clean and distinctive represents your life. It is the only aqueous solution you will get and need. Now, look at a caricature of yourself with ambitious amblings frantically shaking your bottle - your life. See the weight of worry, past admonishments, After The Bell future demands and imaginary eyes invading your intrinsic value like dye dizzily discoloring your life’s purpose -> To LIVE. Invisible inflammatory holes form while other indiscernible, noxious (nodal) neighbors surround your mind and your time. The good news is that as long as you are vertical and aspirating, you have an august opportunity and super power to redirect, redefine and ignite a new definition of your life and destiny. You can CHOOSE to enjoy LIVING to the fullest with all of the challenges related thereto. You do this by listening, by being truthful, and having a serious conversation with yourself about all the things you have CHOSEN to define you. You have an opportunity to really experience the majesty and miracle of life when you decide to write your own script, observe and address any pressure and lies that you tell yourself (and those that others may have told you during your youth). You get to enjoy your presence and the beauty it brings by consistently, lovingly and