Teach Middle East Magazine Jan - Mar 2020 Issue 2 Volume 7 | Page 54

Mental Health
HOW TO KEEP UP
WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH…
BY: NATASHA E. FEGHALI
W
e have to face the
fact that life is hard
sometimes.
The
number one reason
people don't get what they want is that
they give up too soon!
So what does never giving up really
mean? It means believing in yourself. It
means willing to accept “failure” so you
can learn the critical skill of adaptation.
It means not compromising on your
most important values, and walking
the walk, rather than just talking the
talk.
When you are pursuing a worthwhile
goal and you feel that your energy is
low, that is the time to never give up.
That is when you need to dig your
heels in and brace yourself for what is
to come both the good and the bad.
It is in the tough times that we find
ourselves achieving beyond measure.
In this article, you’ll learn that tough
times make even the most motivated
person consider giving up and this
is completely normal. Despite the
overwhelming feeling of wanting to
just give up, it’s the most important
time NOT to.
What makes you want to give
up easily
Identifying the reasons why giving
up seems like the best option is so
important. There are many reasons
why people want to give up and each
is driven by different motivations.
However, there are a few human
instincts that come into play here.
Sometimes we feel as though we are
just not good enough or someone
puts us down and we may feel; just not
good enough. It is often said that the
moment we decide to give up is the
moment just before the breakthrough.
Life is a long or short journey, and
that journey happens to be tough
sometimes. We get rejected, we do
not get a job offer or we feel pain
from another life event. Pain is a
fundamental part of life and that’s why
it’s critical that we learn to stay positive
when life gets us down.
Here are my 5 steps to re-
energizing yourself when you
feel like giving up:
5 5 Mistakes are lessons: See the
roadblock for the lesson it is and
keep going anyway.
5 5 The journey is more important than
the outcome: Putting more emphasis
on the result and dismissing the
importance of how you’re getting it,
is an error. Remember the lessons
are learned along the journey and
they make you stronger.
5 5 Stop seeing the failure before it’s
even happened: Self-sabotaging
yourself by creating the thought that
it just won’t happen. This is usually
down to limiting beliefs and lack of
self-belief. It is rarely as bad as you
think.
5 5 Be disciplined: Realising that
achieving your dream won’t just fall
into your lap within a few weeks, it will
take hard work and determination.
5 5 Adjust to changes and keep going:
Embracing changes in direction and
tweaking ideas, are key to success.
Things will change and evolve on the
journey, just be prepared to change
and roll with the punches. The road
to success is never straight. It is
filled with twists and turns, hills and
valleys. Be prepared for the rain and
the sunshine and know that things
won’t be the same all the time.
Natasha E. Feghali, an award winning Canadian educator. She has been recognized
for her philanthropy in the community and strong dedication to education. She is the
recipient of the 40 Under 40 United Way/ Leadership Windsor-Essex Award 2018 as
well as numerous awards and recognitions; most notably the Sovereign Canadian
Medal in 2015 for her dedication to education the future of entrepreneurship and youth.
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