Sugarmoon - Spring Edition 2019 Sugarmoon - Spring 2019 | Page 21
it happen! Taking the time now to talk
about money opens a profitable line of
communication.
TEAMWORK conversation with, “I blew it. I said I
wasn’t going to spend any money on 'X'
but I did. I want you to know that I care
about you and our relationship and I
broke a promise and I am sorry.”
Trust your companion. Additionally,
trust that they have your back and want
the best for both you. Remember two
are better than one when it comes to
money strategies. Being transparent will help decrease
and eliminate the money fights because
you are cutting off the fight at the pass.
Everyone hates money surprises and
appreciates a sincere apology!
If you entered a boat race with a million
dollars on the line and you were given
the choice of rowing alone or having
another person help you row, which
would you choose? Two people rowing
together beats one rowing all alone. TIMING
TRANSPARENCY
When it comes to your money, put
those cards on the table. This means
being totally upfront and honest. Many
times couples aren’t transparent because
we don’t want to be told, “No” from our
spouse or significant other.
Many of us would rather endure the
fight, instead of being transparent and
shareing how much we spent or that we
broke a money promise.
Find the right time and start the
Timing is everything! This is really true
when it comes to money.
The other week Bethany and I had
a minor bump in the road with our
finances. Our car broke down. It was
no one’s fault; it just was one of those
things. Bethany found out it was going
to cost more to fix than it was worth
so she started making plans to get
another car. I misunderstood what it
was going to cost and I tend to worry
about the budget anyway. So, I came
home in a huff and it sent us into a
tailspin. All sorts of stuff came up in that
“conversation” (OK, read: fight).
Should have taken our own advice on
that one! Sorry, Hon!
THINK
We have all heard “think before you
speak.” The reality is, we hardly ever
do it.
When you feel your blood boiling
and you are about to lose it, just walk
away or take a break. Think about the
other person’s feelings, think about the
situation, and how it is really going to
affect your money, and think about how
you are going to explain your concern
to your significant other.
Think it through and save yourself from
a major fight!
Get lots of helpful tools and our FREE
infographic on The Anatomy of a Money
Fight at TheMoneyCouple.com under
Resources for Money Fights.
Fighting isn’t fun. We all hate it. No one
wins.
Use the top five “T’s” for a healthier,
wealthier relationship.
Bottom line was that my timing
could not have been
worse. I should have
waited until we were
both ready for the
conversation and the
kids were asleep.
The conversation
needed to happen but
my timing was terrible.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, each have 20 years of
financial advising experience, are love and money experts, authors, TV
Personalities, radio regulars and speakers who help couples solve money
issues in their relationship. Grab a copy of The 5 Money Personalities:
Speaking the Same Love and Money Language, and take the FREE online
Money Personality Assessment.
TheMoneyCouple.com
21