GUYS TALK
Can I sleep with you first?
Ratanang Mogatusi
Men and women love to date. It is
one of the traits that classify us as
social beings. We pair up with others
and cultivate bonds that are mutually beneficial, though this may not
always be easy to accomplish.
Starting a successful relationship
can take time, especially if it starts
as an awkward one. Interested parties may find it difficult to get from the
point of recognising their interest in
each other; to a point where they are
not only comfortable with each other
but also trust one another.
In the early stages of a relationship,
people tend to abstain from sex, in
an attempt to build a deeper, more
meaningful relationship; as opposed
to one founded on sexual chemistry.
This doesn’t always work out well, as
they may soon find themselves stuck
in a relationship, or even marriage,
with someone whose sexual chemistry does not match up with their own.
This can often spell disaster for the
couple. Can you imagine how different the outcome would have been,
had they had sex with each other,
before getting to know each other?
Hypothetically speaking, in a world
where men and women have sex as
soon as they are aware of the mutual attraction between them, getting
to know each other and determining
whether or not the relationship is
worth exploring, further would be a
simpler task.
Whether it be a kiss or having sex,
the thought of doing either for the first
time at the end of a date, can be the
looming elephant in the room. Wondering if someone finds their date
genuinely enjoyable and progressively more appealing as the moment of truth approaches can be a
very scary thing to live through. It can
be troubling and even nerve wrecking, if you are truly invested in growing a passionate roaring fire from
the sparks between the two of you.
This would not be the case between
people who have already had sexual
intercourse.
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Once two people have sex, the sexual tension between them is altered.
The fact that you have bared yourselves to each other both openly
and intimately in the physical sense,
makes it easier to open up to the
other party, emotionally. Once the
sexual tension is broken, the pair can
determine whether or not they are
compatible with each other in bed;
so as to be able to determine if their
relationship will grow, or not. In most
instances, if this formula is followed,
a lot of time and heartbreak can be
avoided.
Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world, and one cannot freely engage in sex on every first date without having to worry about pregnancy,
STD’s/STI’s and heartbreak. In this
life, one has to carefully choose your
partners, build trust, and most importantly, always practice safe sex.