WHY NOT SETTLE? WHY NEW BEGINNINGS?
In life, we will be in certain situations that are not good for us, and depending on what they are, we have the choice to be stuck in them and settle or choose to make new beginnings by doing something different. If we choose to stay stuck in the situations that aren’ t good for us, we are settling.
Definition of settling: sit or come to rest in a comfortable position.
It’ s not always easy to make changes, but what makes it easier to do, is to evaluate each situation or circumstance. In doing this, we will know how to proceed with staying as is or creating new beginnings. It’ s our own choice to make, individually, no one can make the choice for us.
In my opinion, we need to be taught in childhood to evaluate our lives to see what’ s working and what’ s not working to know not to settle in a situation or stay stuck in a circumstance and instead, determine our next.
I was stuck in a relationship, that we had the same issues going on for years, so it was going around the same mountain over and over and over again. I can even look back and see when the issues started. We would have an issue, get past it, and just stay together even though it wasn’ t a totally happy situation. I was thinking about my children, thinking things will get better, however they never did. I was functioning in the dysfunction, basically comfortable in the dysfunction even though I wanted change for the better. We just kept moving forward and the years went by.
When that dysfunctional relationship ended, I had new beginnings that have led to me living my best life NOW. I would have ended the relationship much, much earlier if I had known to be evaluating and analyzing it instead of staying stuck in it and trying to make it work, all while being unhappy( not all the time as there were some good times), and also developing bad habits( one being emotional eating) as a result of being unhappy and trying to make wrong relationship work.
It is important to know that you can always have new beginnings, you don’ t have to stay stuck or settle in anything that is not causing you to live your best life NOW.
I used to be a“ happy go lucky” kind of person, and being in that relationship, I had lost myself. This is why it is so important to continually evaluate and analyze our lives to not end up being stuck, like I was, and for years. We don’ t have to settle for anything at all. We can heal from brokenness, stuck and even move on from mediocrity, there is so much more to enjoy in this life.
What I had started saying back then was,“ I’ m back to myself and am even better.” I am free to be me, where I wasn’ t free to be my true authentic self before.
The choice is yours!
I encourage you to analyze and evaluate your life to see where you stand in regard to being stuck or settling, or even mediocrity, and depending on the outcome of your evaluation, take steps for new beginnings.
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“ There is always hope to not settle and have new beginnings!”
Noreen N. Henry Victorious Living Strategist The " Culture " Changer www. VictorousLiving4U. com
As I began the process of beginning new, I started working on myself in a different way. I worked on my inner self. I read the book titled“ Healing The Broken Hearted,” I ordered the“ emotional healing” package that consisted of books and cassette tapes( I know, I ' m dating myself:). This is how I started my new beginning. And as the saying goes, the rest is history.
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