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Learn How to Provide Support Your daughter needs your love and support to overcome the eating disorder, but it is also important to address your own needs as a parent. Watching someone you love battle this lifethreatening disorder can be a very emotionally challenging experience; no one should walk this road alone. Utilize the support of a caring pastor, Christian counselor, or trusted friends to help you during this difficult time. It is important for you and your daughter that you have a safe place where you can vent, express, and have a chance to work through your own feelings. Allow others to help you as you help the one you love. Feelings are a normal part of being human. It is important to acknowledge your feelings and handle them in the best ways possible. The tumultuous emotions you feel toward your daughter, the eating disorder, and the effects of the disorder on your family are not uncommon. But with the gamut of emotions you experience, you may become distracted from the truth of God's Word. Encourage yourself with the truth that emotions are fleeting, but the Word of God stands forever (Isaiah 40:8). The Word of God will empower you to stand in the face of adversity and overcome it. Anger is a common reaction for parents of girls battling an eating disorder. Youmay feelanger at the disorder, your daughter, yourself, or even at failed treatment attempts, counselors, and institutions. Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be angry and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger" (NASB). Your feeling of anger is not sinful. It is how you proceed in that anger that is crucial. 71