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It is crucial for the whole family to seek help together for the
situation you are facing. Avoiding your daughter or detaching
from her issue is an ineffective approach-s-ignoring
the facts
will not make them disappear. It is important to keep in mind
that an eating disorder is not solely about food. Confronting
the roots of what is happening with your daughter and in your
family is what will bring about resolution.
I've been silently observing my daughter for a while, but I
can't be silent anymore. She refused to eat again tonight,
and I lost my cool. I began toyell; and then I broke down
into sobs. It's a constant battle between a frustrated anger
and a compassionate heart. 1 am beginning to realize that
she needs more help than 1 can give her.
~Allie's mother, personal journal entry
As a caring parent, your first step must be to pray and seek
God for wisdom in supporting your daughter. While many
circumstances are out of your control, prayer and guidance
are within your control. Supportive confrontation,
without
judgment, is the best way to foster positive change in your
daughter's life; she needs to know that you love her regardless
of her behavior.
The Bible says that love never fails (1 Corinthians
13:8).
When your approach and concern for your daughter come
from the unconditional
love and leading of the Holy Spirit,
you will begin to see results that are long lasting. Approach
your daughter with compassion and open communication,
let God lead you throughout the whole process of healing.
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