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by doing so is to confirm they have some control over your behavior. Take the high road. Make a choice to remain composed and stay in control. Those who witness the exchange will take note. Situations like this are where reputations are strengthened or weakened based upon one’ s behavior.
3) It’ s so easy for something to be misinterpreted in an email or text message. Before you hit send, ask yourself if you would say this in person. If not, revise. Also, be intentional with what you are writing. Impulsive responses are just asking for trouble. Draft your message, take a breath and try to read it with fresh eyes. Make sure your tone is clear, avoid sarcasm, and NO YELLING! If this idea proves tough for you to master, consider the use of delayed sends so you have one last chance to stop something that shouldn’ t go out from going out.
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4) Here’ s an easy one. No venting about clients, judges, or opposing counsel on any social platforms. Ethical rules aside, such comments are too easily viewed as unprofessional or prejudicial. Yes, you may feel better in the short term, but this short-lived feeling will often come with a cost.
5) Set boundaries. Responding to a text message from an upset client at 3 a. m. or trying to respond to email as quickly as you can just to get it out of the way aren’ t good choices. Set clear expectations, particularly with clients, as to when they can expect a response to any type of communication and then stick to it. This is about making sure you have the time to focus and gather your thoughts.
6) Never lose sight of your common sense. The use of hostile, demeaning, and humiliating language or speaking with an intent to mislead, mischaracterize, or lie is simply unacceptable. Focus instead on clarity, empathy, respect, and thoughtful brevity as you consider what you wish to say.
7) If video is in use, dress and act the part, because those who are listening can’ t help but to allow what they see to impact what they hear as they draw their conclusions about what you said. This is just human nature. The less you care about how you present; the less others care about what you have to say.
8) And perhaps most importantly, prioritize selfcare, because the more tired, stressed, overworked, or lonely one becomes, the easier it is for incivility to rear its ugly head.
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FRANCIS W. GASPER, founder of Gasper Investigations, LLC is an award winning retired FBI Agent, attorney and licensed private investigator located in North Dakota, who specializes in working with attorneys to prepare and engage in complex litigation; clients include corporations and banks addressing fraud, employee malfeasance as well as background reviews.
HIGHLY SKILLED AT CONDUCTING:
• Comprehensive research
• Reviewing large amounts of financial records and data
• Identifying, locating, and interviewing witnesses
• Gathering and summarizing admissible documentary evidence
• Asset searches
CONTACT:
Francis W. Gasper Gasperinvestigations. com frank @ gasperinvestigations. com( 701) 204-1798 or( 914) 584-2225
Private Investigator ND # 588, MN # 2321, IL # 115002658, NY # 1100221129, Member of NY Bar
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