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What’s Missing
From Your Coolness?
I was just out skateboarding with my daughter. Today I bought her a new helmet, arm pads and boarding
sneakers. She looks like a pro. Now she just needs to learn how to ride the things.
She loves her new accessories. To her, skateboarding is ultra – hip and the perfect sport. So we
were out there, having fun, when she looked up at me and said: “Dad, there’s something missing form my
coolness.” What a line. Hilarious. Got me thinking.
What’s missing from my coolness? What’s missing from my authenticity? What’s missing from my
greatest life? Awareness precedes choice and choice precedes results. (Okay, I’ll stop repeating that line;
it’s just that it’s so incredibly important.) With better awareness of what needs to improve in your life, you
can make better choices. And with better choices, you see better results. We truly cannot eliminate
weaknesses we don’t even know about.
One of our biggest regrets on our deathbeds is that we were not reflective enough. That we didn’t
spend enough time thinking, in deep contemplation. Don’t let that happen to you. Make the time to think.
Ask yourself what needs to improve in your life. Ask yourself what needs to get done. Ask yourself what
values you need to live. Ask yourself how exceptional are you, how “plugged in” are you, how interesting
(and interested) are you – how cool are you? Then make your life your message. And don’t let anything be
missing from your coolness.
One of our biggest regrets on our deathbeds is that
We were not reflective enough.