5. Help them realize their longing to
feel loved is normal. God created each
of us with a longing to find our worth
in who loves us. The problem lies when
we look to find our worth in how well a
significant other treats us. The aching
we have to feel treasured can only be
satisfied when we realize that God loves
us so much that He sent His Son to
purchase us for Himself. The intimacy
with the Creator was stolen away when
mankind sinned in the garden. From
then on, we all search for love in the
wrong places. God is the only answer to
the longing of our hearts.
6. Find someone who loves God more
than they love you, and they’ll be able
to love you with His selfless love. The
Bible instructs believers not to marry
unbelievers. While it’s easy to tell our
kids, “just don’t marry a non-believer” it’s
more valuable to explain to them why.
One very important reason is because
the only people who have the capacity
to love others with Christ’s selfless
love are those whose hearts have been
transformed by the Holy Spirit.
We regularly told our own children as
well as our youth ministry kids, “Marry
someone who loves Jesus more than
they love you and you’re on the right
track to a marriage that will last a
lifetime.”
Telling our kids how not to feel will
do nothing to guide their hearts. But
exposing them to real Christ honoring
romance will kindle a spark of hope that
God really is sovereign over romance
and love.
Rhonda
Stoppe
Rhonda Stoppe is the No Regrets
Woman. With more than 30 years of
experience as a marriage mentor,
pastor’s wife, author and speaker,
Stoppe leads women of all ages
to live lives of no regrets. Using
sound biblical teaching through
humor and honest communication,
Stoppe teaches women how to
apply God’s word to live boldly
through the power of the Holy
Spirit. Stoppe has appeared on
radio programs and has spoken
at women’s events, MOPs groups
and homeschool conventions
around the nation.
Pick up your copy of Rhonda’s book
Real Life Romance, a compilation of
25 love stories of ordinary people
who found extraordinary love.
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