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find a happiness that lasts. But because ‘the pursuit of happiness’ is promised to us as a right in the founding document of our nation, the Declaration of Independence, we carry a sense of entitlement. We think we deserve happiness. And if we don’t find what we consider to be happiness, we are likely to develop what . . . Alexis de Tocqueville called ‘a strange melancholy in the midst of abundance.” What an apt description of the atti- tude of most Americans—surrounded by all the things we think will make us happy, and yet restless and dissatisfied inside. According to one mom, what we have is never enough. We always want more. If we’re hungry and the food bank is passing out bread, we want two loaves instead of just one. If the church is giving away free coffee after Sunday service, we’re irritated that it isn’t Starbucks. If we’re single, we want to be married. If we’re married, we want a better spouse. We want to be thinner, prettier, and richer. We want a good job, then a better one. Then, that job is no Solutions 55