Solutions August 2017 | Page 45

We all know life can be hard. People hurt us, the past haunts us, coworkers mistreat us, parents don’t love us, friends don’t consider us, spouses don’t honor us, children don’t appreciate or respect us, finances don’t support us, and our health doesn’t sustain us. Sometimes having a positive outlook and an optimistic attitude can seem impossible to achieve, much less maintain. But even when life gets hard, we don’t have to let our hearts get hard. Whether or not our hearts and mind stay positive in the midst of hard times is entirely up to us, yet all too often, we let our negative thoughts harden our hearts. Fortunately, through the strength, peace and joy found in Christ, we are all capable of shattering the hard shell on our hearts by intentionally choosing to think positive. Happiness is a choice, not a byproduct of a perfect life. So regardless of what life brings, we can all choose optimism and joy. Despite the hurts of your past, the difficulties of your present circumstances, or the fears about your future, you can make optimistic thinking a reality in your life. When you do, your life will change, even if your circumstances remain the same. The first step in pursuing a changed life is believing it can actually happen for you. Below are a few tips to start your mind over matter transformation. 1. Don’t ask “why me?” Ask “why not me?”Maybe you’ve found yourself asking “why me?” when life feels hard. When we feel crushed under the weight of our problems, we can’t help but think life is unfair, and even maybe God is unfair since He’s allowing such adversity in our life. But John 16:33 (NLT) says, “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” When I read this verse recently, I was drawn back to the word “all.” We could assume Jesus meant “all this,” to refer to “all this instruction I’ve told you.” Or we could interpret it to mean, He told us ALL that we would have troubles, which we do. At times we might still wonder why others aren’t taxed with the same troubles we are, or maybe it seems we have more than our fair share, leading us to entertain that life is indeed unfair. But the fact is, we ALL have difficult circumstances. Doesn’t that actually make life fair? You see, God doesn’t pick favorites, and it wouldn’t be fair for some people to have trouble and others to have none. With that in mind, shouldn’t we consider “why not me?” instead of “why me?” When we are struggling, it helps to remember God is a fair and just God, and He loves us as much as anyone else. All of us get Solutions 45