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Dadashri: If you fight with this wall, how long can you
keep fighting? If you hurt your head from walking into the wall,
do you start yelling and punching at it? In the same token,
consider your antagonist a wall. Then is there a need to lay
blame on him? We ourselves have to understand that the other
person is like a wall. By doing this, you will avoid all problems.
If the wall had any power, you would too. Is it capable
of confronting you? The same applies to everyone else too.
Whatever the account your wife has come with, she will not
leave you without settling it. She is simply an instrument to settle
your account. You cannot escape this. What is the point of
shouting and complaining when she has no control over her
speech? Therefore, become like a wall yourself. If you continue
to be verbally abusive to your wife, the God within her will take
note of it. On the other hand, if you become like a wall when
she abuses you, the God within you will help you.
There is no difference between colliding with a wall and
getting into an argument with someone over differences of
opinion. It is essentially the same thing. Both are blind. A person
bumps into a wall because he cannot see what lies ahead of
him, and a person gets into conflict because he cannot find a
solution and so he gets into disagreement. We should understand
that these anger, pride, deceit, and greed arise because of one’s
inability to see what lies ahead. It is no fault of the wall, but
of the person who is hurt by it. All these are only walls. All
situations are like the wall. When you clash with a wall you do
not go to look for who is at fault. There is no need to prove
who is right and who is wrong.
Conflict Is a Sign of Ignorance
What causes conflict? Ignorance! If you have conflict
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