So because he was chasing the all mighty dollar, I was being neglected. So I made it known how I felt each and every time he came through that door! It wasn’t hard enough for him to be out working long shifts and struggling to make ends meet PLUS dealing with the everyday hassle of being a black man in America, he had to come home to me, the disgruntled wife! The selfish wife! The wife who couldn’t see past her own selfish desires because she was too busy living in the past and the reality of life hadn’t actually caught up to her yet. Now, trust me, this is coming straight from my heart. Not from what I heard or what someone else told me or anything like that. I was so selfish that it took my husband having a stroke for me to grow the eff up! It took for me to almost lose someone that means everything to me to realize that THIS THING RIGHT HERE is not just about me! You want to talk about a hard lesson to learn and to learn it the hard way! There aren’t enough words in enough languages to describe it, I promise! Listen, if you are a “loner”, fine, be a loner but if you plan on having ANY kind of relationship in this life with anyone else, be it a friendship, a partnership, a marriage or whatever; you have got to look at both sides of that relationship Not just your feelings, wants, needs, desires, but the same way you have all of those, so does the other party. No matter how tough, hard, distant or what have you that they try to act, they still have feelings. Their charade is just a defense mechanism like a skunk’s bad smell. Put on a nose clip and get down to the base of that wall that they have up so that you both can be on the same side of it. Do this now while you have the chance because tomorrow might be too late! LOVE STRONG, LIVE NOW, LAUGH OFTEN!
Enlightenment is Power!
Red Queen