What Sexy People Have in Common.
What Sexy People Have in Common.
The aesthetic rules change all the time. A straight or crooked nose might make the difference between a beautiful face and an ordinary face, but it is almost impossible to remember the shape of a nose on a sexy person because you spend all your time looking at their eyes and lips.
Sexy people ' s wrists, hands and the shape of their fingers can become a source of constant distraction, whereas on merely beautiful people they can be completely overlooked. Whatever colour and texture their skin, you become fascinated by it.
Body parts which might be considered too big or too small in other people assume their own integral perfection and make some kind of sense in terms of visual balance in people we are sexually attracted to. Asymmetries, scars, birthmarks, odd hair distribution, strange little folds of flesh, visible physical impairments and other oddities can themselves become sources of erotic delight because they ' re evidence of the desired person ' s uniqueness, their reality in flesh.
The made-up lovers of our fantasies may be flawless, but they ' re always inferior to real flesh and blood sexy people in all their glorious fleshy sexy weirdness.
Which isn ' t necessarily beauty. As a guy, friend of mine, put it:
'' There are tons of women that I would consider ' attractive ' or ' beautiful '... but not necessarily physically attractive to me personally in a sexual way.''
'' It ' s tough to explain.... but sometimes I see models on TV who are ' attractive '( nice faces, they wear their clothes nicely) but there is no actual sexual attraction. I can admit that they look nice... but I can ' t see myself rolling around in the sack with them... or dating them.''
And just remember, we are still talking about sex here, not love. Romantic love adds layers and layers on top of all this, but even base sexual attraction forgives – and celebrates- very much of what physical beauty would not.
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