Here I can almost hear the objections of some of you:
'' If giving a woman active attention makes a man sexually charismatic, how come it ' s the ' bad boy ' type of man that always gets chicks swooning over him? Doesn ' t the opposite hold true? Doesn’ t withholding attention from a woman make her crave more?''
It is true that some people confuse a“ bad boy” quality with sexiness, because of the media stereotype and / or some real life experience that seems to point towards that direction.
But you see nothing could be further from the truth.
The ' bad boy type ' man is not one that gives no or little attention to women, contrary to evidence of this. In fact, a ' bad boy ' is someone who is master at offering to women tons of active attention.
Except the attention he is is giving to them is of the negative kind. Here is what I mean. The ' bad boy ' guy usually does those two things:
First, he starts off by offering women loads and loads of active attention such as the one described above, until the woman is hooked and addicted to it, then skillfully and artfully withdraws it, stops giving it to her, until she is left trembling with the shakes for some more of the attention he got her addicted to, begging, demanding or or even humiliating herself to him to get some more.
Then he might give her some more positive or negative active attention-verbal and emotional abuse and the like included to it- and she, addicted and attention-starved as she is, reckons that even negative attention is better than no attention at all so she puts up with it. Until he cunningly withdraws his attention again and the vicious circle starts all over again.
So you see, the bad boy guy is a master manipulator of using a woman ' s need for active attention for his own twisted benefit.
Although some women and especially younger and immature girls tend to date and fall for the bad boys in the beginning, women always prefer a guy who knows how to give a woman positive active attention in the long run. Women eventually outgrow the bad boy phase. As fun and addictive bad boys may be with their negative positive attention games and what not, nice guys who know how to give to a woman the right kind of attention she craves for always finish first.
It is always the nice, sexy guys that capture our hearts in the end. They treat us right and know what kind of attention-and how much!- a woman really needs.
The nice guys actually care about a woman ' s feelings, which is the biggest turn on there is. They are genuinely interested in women. They are fiancés and husbands material.