So what does giving a woman active attention mean?
And he continued: '' I’ ll be the first to admit that I ' m not the most attentive guy. I know that ' s something I ' ll have to work on. What I don ' t understand is why someone would need to have another person’ s attention so much to be fulfilled in a relationship.''
The answer is in the biological makeup of human nature...
For women biologically hooking up with a man means giving birth and afterward nursing and nurturing a tiny dependent being who will need nurturing for the next 18 years.
A woman ' s built-in " radar " therefore is seeking a man who will BE THERE to give love and support to both her and any offspring. She must feel secure enough to have sex with and rely on her man to be supportive during pregnancy and afterward. And the gauging system she instinctively uses to make sure she will get that from a man is the quality and quantity of a man ' s attention she gets.
Even in the age of birth control pills and contraceptives this holds true because a woman takes a big chance and risks her health, independence and future on a loving relationship with a man. She must make sure he will be there for her.
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So what does giving a woman active attention mean?
Women crave male attention. So when you do give it to them, you stand out. You push their buttons in the most pleasant way possible.
Actually even bitchiness in women stems from her anger of not getting any or enough of male attention. Behind anger is always fear. Fear of not getting enough of this kind of energy she craves and is biologically designed to receive.
But men rarely know how to go about giving her that attention.
Most men think that just because women are always the focus of their minds and stares and jokes or phantasies, they are already giving them too much of their attention.
But that is not at all the attention a woman needs or craves. The attention described above is passive and actually directed inwardly, towards men ' s minds or bodies, towards the workings of their own inner world. It ' s passive and self centered. What women need and want is active attention.
If you are a man think about yourself for a moment and many of your guy friends. Most of them probably see a woman they ' d like to meet and sit back saying " Wow, she ' s beautiful, I would love to get a piece of that ", or " I ' d do anything to be with her ", or they fantasize about what they ' d like to do with her but they rarely ever make a move! It ' s safe to say that the mass majority of men behave in this manner.