September 2013 El Paso\\\\\\\'s Gay Magazine | Page 14

A relationship is founded on trust. What would happen then when that very trust which is the essence of commitment is compromised? Such is the pain of betrayal. It strikes a dagger to our very hearts, as treachery from the person who we hold most dear is something that we’re always afraid of, yet it remains that one thing which we dare not expect. Suspecting our partners to be cheating on us can make

us lose an important component of our lives: peace of mind. We’ll end up spending countless sleepless nights thinking and fearing the worst. All we need during those times is a guarantee… a sign. Whether it is good or bad, it should be better than having to waste countless hours drowning in a sea of uncertainty. Hence, here are nine signs that could tell you when your lover is actually cheating on you.

Of course, all of these signs can be as simple as personality quirks that we all have to deal with when it comes to our partners. What makes them danger signs is when they are exhibited suddenly, whereas they never even manifested themselves before. Such an immediate shift in personality can be the result of a cheating heart

1. Is he/she overprotective about his/her mobile phone? It is so easy to cheat on someone in this day and age of modern technology. Fortunately, or unfortunately, it is also easy to catch someone using the very technology that facilitates the betrayal. New generation mobile phones these days do have logs that record the numbers we call and the numbers that contact us. Also, text messaging is concrete proof .Naturally, the person engaged in such a betrayal would dare not show his/ her phone.

2. Is there a significant decrease in the time he/she allots for you? The body has its limitations. If he/she is all gung ho with the other party, it is expected that he/she will be too tired to give you the attention you expect.

3. Is there a significant decrease in the level of affection he/she is showing you? Simple caresses and gentle kisses that diminish in frequency can be quite telling of a wandering heart. The attention that he/she used to shower you with is most probably spent on someone else.

4. Is he/she usually gone for days under the guise of a business trip or meeting with friends, when he/she never used to pursue such affairs? He/She may be engaged in an affair of another variety, and he/she is merely using seemingly valid reasons as excuses.

5. Do you catch him/her with small lies more often than you could count? Small lies become bigger lies, and sometimes, small lies can be used to conceal even more dastardly lies. A lie is a lie. Treat it seriously. Once discovered, prepare yourself to unveil more skeletons in his/ her closet.

6. Does he/she miss important dates which he/she never used to forget? The human mind also has its limits, and when it focuses on someone else, the memories reserved for us are often left at the backseat.

7. Does he/she fail to call you at appropriate times? It is quite difficult to sneak in a call or some form of communication when he/she is with someone else, right?

9. Internet affairs are growing in large numbers in this day and age. If he/she is spending more time in cyberspace than normal, be weary. Chances are, he/ she is exchanging some corresponde ??????????????????????????????????????????????????????((????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Q???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????((0