Living Out Love
Adoption Story
A
year and a
half ago we
began the
process of
international adoption.
Today, I have so many
feelings for anyone
who has ever adopted
internationally.
To date, we have killed
a forest with all of the
paperwork and forms and all the paperwork and
forms that were misplaced or not shared between
departments. I have lost my marbles. More than
once. Today. Thankfully, I keep finding them
and trying again. I have felt incompetent in the
international adoption world. I have wondered on
several occasions if the people we have worked with
during this process have felt I am incompetent in
the international adoption world. I have wondered if
they have felt me so incompetent that they wouldn’t
even let us have children. I have hoped and prayed
and pleaded that my parenting skills not be judged
according to my ability to keep my coffee in my
cup and off the piles of forms, documents, and
paperwork. Did I say we’ve killed a forest? People
have been downright horrible to us for adopting out
of country and for fundraising. And many more dear
humans have been so completely and utterly amazing
and supportive in so many ways! Like, seriously. Uh.
May. Zing.
Lovie Weatherby
Let me tell you the funniest part about this whole
thing.
When we first decided to adopt, we knew we would
adopt internationally. We didn’t really care from
which country. I am absolutely in love with Haiti. I
have never been there, but I study it’s history and arts
and culture. I look at pictures of Haiti’s beauty and
slums and its people. So, I decided we would adopt
from Haiti. ONE tiny, perfectly healthy baby girl.
And off we go!
We had barely gotten started in our process when
something happened in the Haitian government that
made the already long Haiti adoption process even
longer. It went from 2-3 years from beginning to
bringing baby home to 3-5 years-maybe never. I have
a VERY short attention span. 2-3 years was already
seriously pushing it for me to stay focused and
complete the task at hand. 3-5 years-maybe never...
Yeah...No...Do you even understand how many
squirrel moments have the potential of happening in
a 3-5 year time period?!?!
So we met up with our person at our adoption agency
to talk options.
I have learned over the past couple of years to
keep my emotions pretty steady and in check. BUT
HOLEY CRIKEY! This whole process and stupid
people and wonderful people and getting to meet our
boys and having to let our boys return to China has
gotten me on an emotional roller-coaster that just
won’t stop! Last week we got some very definite
news of it being just about time to go to China to
bring those cutie babes home and I got so excited
that I almost threw up! I was just grateful it was from
excitement, and not stress, because it could have just
as likely gone that way too, at that point.
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