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LONG-TERM SUCCESS just take time. They just take time. It’s not about the number of hits but rather the number of times you step up to the plate. How do you know if you’re going the right way? Just ask three questions: 1) Am I gaining experience? 2) Will these experiences help? 3) Can I afford stay on this path for a while? Sometimes the answer will be no. Sometimes the answer will be yes. But the answers will help point out the fact that you are learning, you are doing, you may be failing, but you’re moving . . . Seth Godin is the best-selling author of 19 books including Purple Cow, Linchpin, and Tribes. He writes one of the most popular blogs in the world and routinely speaks at places like TED. Seth offers similar advice in an interview he did on The Tim Ferriss Show: “The number of failures I’ve had dramatically exceeds most people’s, and I’m super proud of that. I’m more proud of the failures than the successes because it’s about this mantra of ‘Is this generous? Is this going to connect? Is this going to change people for the better? Is it worth trying?’ If it meets those criteria and I can cajole myself into doing it, then I ought to.” Seth did another interview with Jonathan Fields on the popular self-help podcast Good Life Project. He said, “I’m a big fan of poof.” What’s poof? The idea that you try and if it’s not working—poof. You try something else. I’m sharing this article as an excerpt of some of research, lessons, and ideas on resilience in my new book You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle With Failure, and Live and Intentional Life. And what will I do if this book fails? Well . . . poof. On to the next thing. Don’t get me wrong. I want it to succeed! I’d like to talk about You Are Awesome and the ideas it contains in interviews and meet people whose lives were helped or who shifted or evolved in a meaningful way through this conversation. I want for that. I wish for that! But I can’t determine that. All I get to do is take more pictures. All I get to do is whatever I do right now and whatever I do next. And that’s the point. I have to keep going with my next book, my next talk, my next project, my next whatever, whether this one is a hit or a poof. You need to keep going, too. What do I know about thickening our skin and working our way up to awesome? Well, one thing I know is that we need to stop looking at successful people as if we’re looking at products of success. At success after success. Because you know what we’re really looking at? People who are just really good at moving through failures. MOVING THROUGH FAILURES IS THE REAL SUCCESS. BUILDING RESILIENCE IS THE REAL SUCCESS. The failures and the losses are part of the process for anyone who is willing to try. All successful people swim in ponds of failure. They swallow and choke on failure. They’re covered in gobs of failure. They have failure in their hair and under their fingernails. So what’s the real goal? Be like the T-1000. Do you remember the liquid metal bad guy from Terminator 2? Take a bullet to your shoulder. Take a bullet to your thigh. Let it heal over quickly as you tighten your menacing smile and keep walking forward and forward. Watch out for vats of molten steel in the middle of the abandoned warehouse! Those really could kill you. But fortunately there aren’t too many of those around. Cy Young also has the most losses. Nolan Ryan also has the most walks. Todd Hanson says “Do it for free for 10 years.” And wedding photographers just take more pictures. The most counterintuitive way to building more resilience and long-term success is remember it’s not how many home runs you hit that counts. It’s how many at-bats you take. The wins pile up when you increase the number of times you step up to the plate. + Neil Pasricha is the New York Times-bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and The Book of Awesome series, which has been published in 10 countries, spent over five years on best-seller lists, and sold over a million copies. Pasricha is a Harvard MBA, one of the most popular TED speakers of all time, and after 10 years heading Leadership Development at Walmart he now serves as Director of The Institute for Global Happiness. He has dedicated the past 15 years of his life to developing leaders, creating global programs inside the world’s largest companies and speaking to hundreds of thousands of people around the globe. GlobalHappiness.com 13