Risk & Business Magazine Bowen Miclette & Britt Spring 2017 | Page 12

IRRESISTIBLE PEOPLE
T
oo many people succumb
to the mistaken belief that
being likeable comes from
natural, unteachable traits
that belong only to a lucky
few—the good looking, the fiercely
social, and the incredibly talented. It’s
easy to fall prey to this misconception.
Some people, regardless of what
they lack— money, looks, or social
connections—always radiate with energy
and confidence. Even the most skeptical
individuals find themselves enamored
with these charming individuals.
These people are the life of every party.
They’re the ones you turn to for help,
advice, and companionship.
You just can’t get enough of them, and
they leave you asking yourself, “What do
they have that I don’t? What makes them
so irresistible?”
The difference? Their sense of self-worth
comes from within.
Irresistible people aren’t constantly
searching for validation, because they’re
confident enough to find it in themselves.
There are certain habits they pursue
every day to maintain this healthy
perspective.
Since being irresistible isn’t the result of
dumb luck, it’s time to study the habits
of irresistible people so that you can use
them to your benefit.
Get ready to say “hello” to a new, more
irresistible you.
THEY FOCUS ON PEOPLE MORE THAN
ANYTHING ELSE
Irresistible people possess an authentic
interest in those around them. As a
result, they don’t spend much time
thinking about themselves. They don’t
obsess over how well they’re liked,
because they’re too busy focusing on the
people they’re with. It’s what makes their
irresistibility seem so effortless.
To put this habit to work for you, try
putting down the smart phone and
focusing on the people you’re with. Focus
on what they’re saying, not what your
response will be, or how what they’re
saying will affect you.
WHEN PEOPLE
TELL YOU
SOMETHING
ABOUT
THEMSELVES,
FOLLOW UP WITH
OPEN-ENDED
QUESTIONS TO
DRAW THEM OUT
EVEN MORE.
THEY ARE AUTHENTIC
Irresistible people are who they are.
Nobody has to burn up energy or
brainpower trying to guess their agenda
or predict what they’ll do next. They do
this because they know that no one likes
a fake.
People gravitate toward authentic
individuals because they know they can
trust them. It’s easy to resist someone
when you don’t know who they really are
and how they really feel.
THEY FIND REASONS TO LOVE LIFE
Irresistible people are positive and
passionate. They’re never bored, because
they see life as an amazing adventure and
approach it with a joy that other people
want to be a part of.
It’s not that irresistible people don’t
have problems—even big ones—but
they approach problems as temporary
obstacles, not inescapable fate. When
things go wrong, they remind themselves
that a bad day is just one day, and they
keep hope that tomorrow or next week or
next month will be better.
THEY DITCH THE SMALL TALK
There’s no surer way to prevent an
emotional connection from forming
during a conversation than by sticking
to small talk. When you robotically
approach people with small talk this puts
their brains on autopilot and prevents
them from having any real affinity for
you. Irresistible people create connection
and find depth even in short, everyday
conversations. Their genuine interest
in other people makes it easy for them
to ask good questions and relate what
they’re told to other important facets of
the speaker’s life.
THEY TREAT EVERYONE WITH
RESPECT
Whether interacting with their biggest
client or a server taking their drink
order, irresistible people are unfailingly
polite and respectful. They understand
that—no matter how nice they are to the
Unmistakable Habits
of Irresistible People
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