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friends. Linda and Jack are also still very intimate with each other. It is a blessing to see how they interact with each other, and I see them as taking center stage in their own lives. Linda and Jack are stand out role models as a couple.

I often get asked by my clients what they can do to improve their relationship, and often I respond with a question and ask them to consider how they are seen by others. Would the people around them, like their children, their friends and family see them as mentors – someone they would like to model as a couple? If they do, what would they say about them? And if they don’t, what could they change to be a stand out. Not just for their families, but for their communities, and for themselves.

If you can think about your own relationship, and it doesn’t just have to be your most personal relationship, how could you be a star, and a stand out in your own life, so that you have the nurturing, honest and supportive relationships that this world needs?

Having a relationship that can stand the test of time takes energy and effort, but it is so worth it.

Here are some ways that you can stay a star in your relationship, and be the role model the wold needs:

♥ Be mindful about how you speak to, and treat your partner in private and in public

♥ If you find yourself rolling your eyes when they speak, catch yourself and put your mind into a more loving mode

♥ Listen at a level 10 when your partner is speaking. That means listen with an open heart, loving ears, and soft eyes.

♥ If your partner is speaking to you in a way that you are not happy with, find a time to sit with them and talk about it. Let them know how you feel about it, using “I” statements, rather than “you” statements. For example, you could try “I would love you to talk to me with love and affection in your voice”, rather than saying “you always talk to me like you are frustrated with me!”

♥ Acknowledge your partner when they speak to you in a way that you enjoy. This will re-inforce what you do want, and take the focus off what you don’t want.

If you would like to add to your skills to become a star you in your relationship, and you would like to take my free 7-day challenge to help you do so, please visit The 7-Day Intimacy Challenge at http://7dayintimacychallenge.gr8.com.

Jacque O, The Love Tutor, is a speaker, author and mentor helping people create more meaningful connection and deeper intimacy within their relationship, transforming their partnership

from being about everyday routine, to being more passionate and exciting.

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A Column

by Maura Torkildson

Your Inner Tree

Let Your Unique Intuitive Style Take Center Stage

Along my journey, one of the things which inhibited my trust in my intuition was the fact that I never connected with the way intuition is portrayed in western culture – a function of ‘higher” information coming in through the crown chakra and centered in the third eye. I couldn’t grasp what they were talking about on an experiential level. I don’t imagine I am the only one that has run across this difficulty.

Recently I found out about the Alta Major Chakra through a major epiphany and realized I’ve been using it all along. (Read my blog about that here: https://www.mauratorkildsoncoaching.com/blog)

If this sparks your curiosity like it did mine, here’s some information I discovered about the Alta Major.

• The Alta Major is a “minor” chakra that sits at the base of the skull near your brain stem which controls the messages between the brain and body, and it is near the reticular activating system which regulates wakefulness and sleep transitions.

• The Alta Major was known as the Mouth of the Goddess in Asian tantric systems, allowing Shakti to ignite and flow down the spine.

• The Alta Major is also known as the portal or galactic doorway to higher forces (or I prefer seeing it as “deeper forces”)

• The Alta Major has roots reaching down the spine into the Root Chakra where is disperses throughout the body and branches up to the Crown Chakra

• The Alta Major is also more directly connected to the Third Eye and Crown Chakra.

It just makes sense that this chakra is a portal between our awareness in this world and the intuitive awareness that comes from beyond. I have always experienced my intuitive knowing as coming up through my roots instead of my crown. I now know that those roots are deeply connected to the Alta Major. I was so excited when I came upon this information; it became a wonderful validation for how I understood my own intuitive skills. It boosted my confidence in my intuition to another level.

I believe that everyone has their own unique intuitive style, but we all need validation to move into deeper trust. Trust is the primary key to fully integrating your intuition into your life so it can become the guide it is meant to be. Culturally we have beliefs about what intuition is and how it works and these can get in the way of integrating and trusting our own intuitive style. Those beliefs can cause us to compare and doubt ourselves.

I love to empower women to develop trust in their own intuitive style so they can move forward with deep confidence in their inner guidance (The Inner Tree) and shine. If you think you don’t have intuition or you compare your intuition negatively to others, let me just say that you absolutely do have intuition and it has been there for you all along, patiently waiting for you to notice. I too once thought I wasn’t intuitive, I am actually profoundly intuitive, but first I had to learn how my intuition worked and then I needed time to develop trust in it. It is a relationship and trust develops through experience. If I can do it, you can too.

By putting your unique intuitive style center stage and trusting it, your life will transform and your star will rise and shine brightly. What commitment can you make to yourself to develop that trust?

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friends. Linda and Jack are also still very intimate with each other. It is a blessing to see how they interact with each other, and I see them as taking center stage in their own lives. Linda and Jack are stand out role models as a couple.

I often get asked by my clients what they can do to improve their relationship, and often I respond with a question and ask them to consider how they are seen by others. Would the people around them, like their children, their friends and family see them as mentors – someone they would like to model as a couple? If they do, what would they say about them? And if they don’t, what could they change to be a stand out. Not just for their families, but for their communities, and for themselves.

If you can think about your own relationship, and it doesn’t just have to be your most personal relationship, how could you be a star, and a stand out in your own life, so that you have the nurturing, honest and supportive relationships that this world needs?

Having a relationship that can stand the test of time takes energy and effort, but it is so worth it.

Here are some ways that you can stay a star in your relationship, and be the role model the wold needs:

Be mindful about how you speak to, and treat your partner in private and in public

If you find yourself rolling your eyes when they speak, catch yourself and put your mind into a more loving mode

Listen at a level 10 when your partner is

speaking. That means listen with an open heart, loving ears, and soft eyes.

If your partner is speaking to you in a way that you are not happy with, find a time to sit with them and talk about it. Let them know how you feel about it, using “I” statements, rather than “you” statements. For example, you could try “I would love you to talk to me with love and affection in your voice”, rather than saying “you always talk to me like you are frustrated with me!”

Acknowledge your partner when they speak to you in a way that you enjoy. This will re-inforce what you do want, and take the focus off what you don’t want.

If you would like to add to your skills to become a star you in your relationship, and you would like to take my free 7-day challenge to help you do so, please visit The 7-Day Intimacy Challenge at http://7dayintimacychallenge.gr8.com.

about on an experiential level. I don’t imagine I am the only one that has run across this difficulty.

Recently I found out about the Alta Major Chakra through a major epiphany and realized I’ve been using it all along. (Read my blog about that here: https://www.mauratorkildsoncoaching.com/blog)

If this sparks your curiosity like it did mine, here’s some information I discovered about the Alta Major.

• The Alta Major is a “minor” chakra that sits at the base of the skull near

Along my journey, one of the things which inhibited my trust in my intuition was the fact that I never connected with the way intuition is portrayed in western culture – a function of ‘higher” information coming in through the crown chakra and centered in the third eye. I couldn’t grasp what they were talking