A. Ok Philip L. There are a few answers for your question. Sad to say but, most relationship end on bad terms. Normally there is a lot of bad blood flowing in the atmosphere when two people separate. Normally, one person in the situation is still holding on and doesn't agree with the separation. They might tell you they are ok but really deep down inside aren't. Most immature people use their children as pawns, trying to dictate the other person’s life or happiness by keeping the kid from the other parent. This is normally common with women who leave a relationship after finding out their mate cheated. They leave to only prove a point, not because they are hurt. A REAL woman that is hurt by infidelity is able to act as an adult and allow their ex to maintain a healthy relationship with their children without drama. A real woman only wants to heal her heart and being to focus on her happiness, while a scorn woman wants revenge. If she's giving you drama she's not completely over you. If you are with a scorn mate, begin to take the steps to seek legal actions because the next two years will be limited with your children if you don't do so.
Another reason this situation comes up is due to past experiences. If the noncustodial parent has a negative track record of not being dependable, reliable or known for not showing up (being a sendoff) No one is going to take that person serious and surely isn't going to take the time out to stop their day to accommodate the other parent that is known for not showing up. Your past most definitely dictates your future and how your ex will react.
(Lastly, some parents are just busy. Working and going to school trying to create a better future for their child. Some parents don't know how to multitask and properly schedule to insure that time is spent equally with both parents.
I'm not sure what your situation is but I hope your situation gets better. Just know, if a non-custodial parent doesn't take the correct steps to insure that the relationship with their child is secure then it's that own parents fault. Everyone needs to do their own part and stop thinking that thing will be given or come naturally from the other parent. Obviously the two people separated due to lack if compromise so what makes you think that things will be different when it comes to raising your children? If you’re a parent and your mate is keeping you from your kid take legal actions and demand the respect not just for yourself but for your children as well. Why allow the other parent dictate your life when only you have full control over it. If you don't fight for what you want that means you really don't want it.
I wish you much love, peace and happiness.
XOXO, Olivia
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Q. When in a relationship and the couple calls it quits, and there are children involved- Why does the parent with physical custody of the children feel the need to alienate, or want to call the shots; when and how the other parent can see the kids even though there is no paper work in any court which dictates how these actions should take place? Also they have been served the papers but refuse to talk or sign them when they initiated the breakup.
-Phillip L.