Real Life Real Faith Wisdom for Everyday Life November/December Issue | Page 6

By Michelle Cuttino

We are taught at a young age love is a
goal we must attain. We read the fairy
tales, and watched the movies where the
damsel in distress was rescued by the
charming prince, and they lived happily
ever after. Each night, we secretly prayed
the man of our dreams would come
along, and sweep us off of our feet.
Relationships are not as carefree as they
appear in books, and on the big screen.
Real relationships take work. The basis of
love is compromise, plus a concerted
effort to keep one’s significant other
happy and satisfied.
With age comes wisdom, and a better
understanding that the key to love is
L.U.V.
L = Listen. When your partner bares their
heart, the best thing you can do is give
them your undivided attention. Turn off
the TV, set your phone to silent mode,
look them in their eyes, and hear what
they are saying to you. It’s never

easy to discuss one’s fears and/or feelings. Listen
with your heart, and try to stay impartial so your
own emotions don’t take over. Listening is one of
the basic steps to a long-lasting relationship.
U = Understand. Many partners are so busy
formulating their own thoughts and interjections,
they don’t spend a lot of time actually listening to
what their mate is trying to convey.
Communication is important, but comprehension
is crucial. Open and honest discussions eliminate
misunderstandings. Set up date nights, or specific
days and times when the two of you can converse
about any issues that may threaten your
relationship. Make sure you each walk away with a
clear understanding of what the other has shared.
V = Validate. When in love, we tend to seek
validation from our significant other. We want to
feel desired, and we look to our mate to show us
our worth. It’s important your mate knows your love
is unconditional. Help them overcome their fears,
and reinforce your dedication to them. Treat them
with respect, and support them unreservedly.
Healthy relationships blossom when couples go the
extra mile to ensure their bond endures the test of
time. Once the honeymoon phase is over, it’s not
easy to keep up that same momentum. However, it
is worth it. Remain focused and committed, and be
certain to L.U.V. the one you’re with.
NOMADIC

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