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RAPPORT Issue 5 (August 2020) is built through students believing that their tutors genuinely listen. But we must also be mindful of the fact that listening well be difficult and stressful. As Jones (2011:90) states: '…listening to an upsetting event is healing for the support seeker but stressful for the listener'. How an institution listens to the experiences of their personal tutors is thus important. Owen (2002), for example, shows how tutors often speak of the need for training around this role, whilst Grey and Osborne (2018) and Race (2010) suggest that tutors need to be given the opportunity to regularly engage in continuing professional development relating to their personal tutoring practice because of the challenges the role brings. Listening dimensions from the case studies The following case studies were selected from the CRA portfolios because of the tutor’s reflective focus on listening. A number of key aspects of practice emerge from this grounded approach to the portfolio data. 'Slow listening' Listening within the personal tutoring relationship is seen through a temporal lens. Good personal tutoring relationships take time to develop and are based on the development of trust and familiarity between tutor and tutee: Speaking quite frankly to him about the need for him to plan his working schedule better seemed to work as he acknowledged that I was right … I think the meeting went well and although it was a quite robust conversation this is because of the relationship we have developed. (Portfolio 2, CS 1) Time is needed for advice or discussion to be considered, often with the student needing to go away and think about what was said. The tutor's work is not then complete, it is still necessary continually to check in with the student over time: I asked if she needed to have a little time to think about what she wanted to do, she said that she would go away and think about it. So, we decided that she will come in and see me again after Easter... In remaining seminars, she seemed happier and more involved. (Portfolio 2, CS 4) Good personal tutoring also avoids rushing the tutee in conversation. Tutees often need time to reveal what is important to them: A tutee asked to see me today and when we met, she said she had come to talk to me about the assignment but it soon became clear this was not the prime reason she wanted to see me. I was surprised at how anxious she appeared. (Portfolio 3, CS1) Personal tutors know that things can't be rushed: What I thought would be a 5-minute conversation lasted for over an hour. (Portfolio 9, CS 2) The finite amount of time allocated to personal tutoring is a source of frustration and stress: 20