B : A book would be a better format for that . I am a better problem solver because of her . I look at things differently than I did before and am more successful in every aspect of my life because of it . I have also learned that she is … right . Seriously , I have tried arguments from many different sides and by the end of it , well , you know .
6 . When are you happiest together ? D : Traveling with our kids B : In Mexico , alone .
7 . It ’ s Friday night ... what are you two up to ? D : Possibly walking down the street to our church Bible Study to hang out with friends , drink wine and talk about the Gospel . Most likely hanging with our five kids who are more fun than any place we could go . B : Our Pastor runs the best bible study . We eat pizza , have some drinks and talk about what we think about the readings for the upcoming Sunday .
8 . What have you learned about your spouse since you ’ ve been married ? B : He is deeply and personally committed to being a good husband and father . It is not for me , it is for him . He wants to be good at it , and it makes me so proud and honored that I get to watch him do that . B : She has superpowers . She has turned our house into a loving home and balances the emotional needs of our children . She is incredibly talented in so many areas . She can sit down with the CEO of a major corporation or the cleaning lady and talk to them in detail about the things they know . She is absolutely one of a kind and she is mine !
9 . Would you ever consider renewing your vows ? D : We did already . On our front porch with our five children around us . B : Check , we did last October with our children and friends in attendance . We had another great party afterwards .
10 . What advice would you give a soon-to-be husband ? D : Be patient and kind . The world can be a difficult place and home should be a safe space to be wrong sometimes . B : Listen to understand . You don ’ t necessarily need to solve the problem . Being heard is so important .
11 . What advice would you give to a soon-to-be wife ? D : Prioritize your marriage and your love above all else - even your future children B : Listen to understand . You don ’ t necessarily need to solve the problem . Being heard is so important .
12 . What is one difficult aspect of marriage you didn ’ t anticipate ? D : The stamina of frustrations . I think the same things that drove Brad crazy 15 years ago ... still drive him crazy today . You would think we would each make adjustments ... but no , he ’ ll keep wearing socks with sandals .
13 . What is one great aspect of marriage you didn ’ t anticipate ? D : We have stayed best friends all these years . When I laugh , I want to show him what made me laugh . When I am sad , I want to talk to him . When I am bored , I want to bother him . He is still the best man I know and I love him more now than I did before . B : The teamwork . Might sound odd to say I didn ’ t anticipate that . We find ways to mute each other ’ s short comings and highlight the good stuff .
14 . What advice would you give newlyweds about merging two families and dealing with “ in laws ?” D : Raise your children to love both sets of families equally and fully . It will be important for them and will make their childhood free of family stress . Also , if you have to say something , throw your own parents under the bus and say what bothers you about them to keep it even . B : It is a marathon and not a sprint .
15 . Do you encourage alone time or do you prefer to do things as a couple and why ? D : I have seen this question for over 22 issues now , and have never realized how weird it is . Um . Sure . I “ encourage alone time ,” but married life is crazy and busy and neither of us are ever free of children or dogs or parents or each other - and I love it . But the question is kind of weird . Maybe , “ do you like alone time ? Or would you rather be with your spouse ?” I ’ ll have to talk to the new editor about this one .
16 . What is a favorite memory since you ’ ve been married ? D : Traveling to Europe with him and all five children . It was his first time in Europe and he shared that first with the kids . B : All 7 of us in San Sebastian .
17 . If you had to pick your marriage theme song , what would it be ? D : On the Road Again . I can ’ t believe how much travel we have been able to do , even with five kids . Every time we get settled , I feel like we are getting ready for another adventure .
18 . If you could take your honeymoon again , where would you go ? D : Africa
19 . What is your funniest or most embarrassing marital memory ? D : There are too many funny moments to remember . Our marriage has been full of laughter and silliness .
20 . In an argument , what brings you back together ? D : A sweet apology or a joke . We never know which it will be . Sometimes , when I am upset about something , Brad will make a joke about it . And if I don ’ t respond he ’ ll say , “ is it not funny yet ?” with a smirk . It always makes me laugh . B : An apology or a good laugh .
Do you want to play 20 Questions ? How will you and your spouse answer ? For added fun , don ’ t let each other see the answers while filling it out ! Email : sales @ qabmagazine . com for the list of questions .
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