Pure Love
17
Dadashri: A mother’s love for her child is not unselfish.
This will be evident when the child grows up and one day insults
her! During a heated argument, he may refer to her as his
‘father’s wife’. When the son utters such words, the mother’s
attachment instantly disappears and she will tell him that she
does not want to see his face ever again. Now is not ‘his
father’s wife the same as ‘his mother’? But still she will become
indignant because he addressed her in this manner. Even she
wants reciprocation of her attachment and worldly love. It is all
attachment.
So even that love is not unselfish. It is the infatuation and
attraction of illusion. Where there is attachment and infatuation
and attraction, there is always selfishness.
Questioner: What you are saying is true. As the child
grows, the infatuation and attraction increases. But what about
when the baby is only six months old?
Dadashri: Even at that time there is infatuation and
attraction. The whole day long there is infatuation and attraction.
The world is bound through infatuation and attraction. There
can never be real love anywhere in this world.
Questioner: I can understand it when you say that
about the father, but I still have difficulty accepting it about the
mother.
Dadashri: Fathers are selfish whereas mothers are not,
when it comes to their children. This is the difference. What
does a mother have? All she has is the attachment of infatuation
and attraction. They forget everything else and in such situations
they can never be without any expectations for even a second.
No body can be without expectations. Except for the Gnani, no
one can be without any expectations. All these people that
claim to be unselfish and without expectations are actually taking
advantage of the world.