12
Pure Love
Dadashri: Yes, I will tell you. A man had seen his son
who was at college, going around with a girl. He asked his son
why he was going around in a state of infatuation. People
nowadays do not call it so but in the old days they used to call
it a lafroo, a temporary state of infatuation and attraction. The
father referred to it as lafroo because he knew that his son was
being foolish in thinking that he was in love and was going to
suffer tremendously from that relationship. This lafroo was clinging
to him and it would hurt him. It is not easy to sustain love.
Everyone knows how to have love affairs, but they do not
know how to break away from such a love.
The son became very upset when he heard his father
refer to his girlfriend as a lafroo. He told his father that he was
ruining his reputation by saying such things and asked him not
to speak in this manner in public. The father agreed. The son
dated this girl for two years and then one day he saw her with
another boy at the movies. It was then that he realized that his
father was right all along. His relationship with the girl was a
lafroo.
When all the evidences and circumstances come together,
one will become stuck with a lafroo and it will be very difficult
to get free from it and when she starts seeing someone else, he
will not be able to sleep at night. Does this not happen? From
the moment the son realized what his father had said and
recognized that it was truly a lafroo, a false love, it began to
release him from its grip. As long as he saw her as his girlfriend
and not a lafroo, he was bound to her.
Questioner: So if one wants to sum up the differences
between false love and real love, how can one do that?
Dadashri: Why are you talking about love when there is
no love? Besides real love there is no other love at all; it is all
attachment, attraction and illusion. People become blind with