ProTeam - Module 2 | Page 43

What Subtle Signals Are You Sending? Scoring: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. a) 1 a) 3 a) 1 a) 3 a) 1 b) 2 b) 1 b) 2 b) 1 b) 2 c) 3 c) 2 c) 3 c) 2 c) 3 If you scored 15 to 12 COOL AS CAN BE Your body language says you’re confident, honest and interested. Standing straight and looking others in the eyes show that you’re interested in them and what they have to say. When people talk to you, you express your interest by smiling and nodding as they speak. If you scored 11 to 8 LOOKIN’ A LITTLE ALOOF Sure, you may be confident, but your body language could indicate that you’re out of reach. Pay attention next time you’re having a conversation. Are you easily distracted? If so, your body language just about screams that you checked out of the conversation long ago. Your body cues are also a way of expressing nervousness –– although it might come across as boredom rather than insecurity. Be a better listener by keeping your body and your eye contact aimed at the person you’re listening to. If you scored 7 to 5 BUNDLE OF NERVES (AND EVERYONE KNOWS IT!) Although you may have all the right things to say, your body language can’t conceal your lack of confidence. Habits like nail or lip biting and playing with your hair are sure-fire signs that you’re ill at ease. Ditto for stances like slouching or looking down. Work on your body signals; stand tall and maintain eye contact. You’ll actually feel more confident just by acting more confident. Catching Others’ Clues Paying attention to how others relate to you helps reveal hidden meanings in their body motions. Check out these body-language pointers! If a person… …it may mean that he or she... v touches your shoulder during a conversation... likes you. v always makes eye contact with you... is honest. v looks away from you and blinks a lot when he or she is talking to you... is lying. v stands with his or her hands on hips... v fiddles with his or her clothes... PROTEAM DREAMQUEST CURRICULUM is angry. is nervous. 2-43