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maximize her physical beauty without cosmetic
surgery, because as shallow as it may sound, how
physically attractive you are is very important to men,
and should also be to you if you are seriously looking to
attract and keep a man.
6) Black Men Struggle More Than Any Other Group
of People in Society and in the Workplace:
You have to ask why are there so many black men in
prison and under-educated? Why is the unemployment
rate so high for black males? Why is the suicide rate so
high for black males? Why are so many black men
absent in their child’s life? Why are black males
struggling more than other group of people? We have to
better understand the struggles of Black men to really
increase the number of datable black men...and I’m no
expert on the answers to these questions and I know
when I’m out of my lane, but there are others who have
studied Black males and written on this topic and could
surely provide some answers to these questions.
7) Black Women Haven’t Adjusted to the New
Hypercompetitive Dating Environment That Exists
Today:
Many of the traditional rules of courtship don’t exist,
for better or for worse, Black women have to do things
differently to attract and maintain a long-term
relationship with a man. And, if you think about it, most
of us have never been taught how to date to find a
compatible partner. There was no college course for it.
Yes, many women have received advice from family or
friends. We may have taken advice from other single
women. But most of us are winging it as we go. There
are some women who are obviously better at it than
others. In Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, I’ve
consolidated the best strategies that I have learned from
friends, relatives and my own experiences and frankly
some of the best practical advice that I have ever
received and successfully applied to attract the type of
men I wanted in my life and they did show up. These
strategies have worked for others and they can work for
you. You can’t continue doing the same thing and
expect different results. It is time to change your
approach to dating!
PROGRAM SUCCESS – JANUARY 2010
So, those are my thoughts, I’d love to hear why you
think so many Black women are single and please be
sure to read Part 2: 10 Things Single Black Women
Should Do to Find a Good Man.
Also, check out Real Talk with JJ and The Fellas see
www.jjsmithonline.com, as we will dedicate our radio
shows the entire month of January (1/13 and 1/27) we
to discuss this topic so that Black men and women can
have real dialogue and discuss real solutions. You can
check out the show nationally, so please join in the
discussion!
J.J. Smith is a Dating and Relationship Expert,
Author, Radio Host, Life Coach and Corporate
Executive. J.J. is also the host of “Real Talk with JJ
and The Fellas,” a radio show that provides advice to
single women looking for real answers on love,
dating, sex and relationships. J.J has appeared on
NBC, FOX, NewsChannel8, Glamour Magazine,
Ladies Home Journal. the Jamie Foxx Show, Montel
Williams Show, Michael Baisden Show, HOT97, KISS
98.7 and many others. J.J. is also the Dating and
Relationship Columnist for Black Star News. J.J.’s
engaging personality, and no-holds barred dating
books offer sometimes controversial guidance that has
been grabbing readers and listeners, both men and
women alike, and keeping them coming back for
more!
J.J. Smith is available to discuss this topic on
print/radio/TV. Feel free to contact her at
[email protected] at 202-230-7195 or visit her
at www.jjsmithonline.com to view her demo reel and
media clips.