Pride Winnipeg 2015 Pride Guide | Page 52

52 PARADE MARSHALS EVOLVING PAST WHAT’S BETWEEN OUR LEGS Shandi Strong Grand Marshal Shandi is one of the fiercest advocates in the LGBTTQ* community. Some have called her a trans pioneer and even ‘the Laverne Cox of Winnipeg,’ but she’s quick to point out that she’s not the first trans person in Winnipeg and none of her success would’ve been possible without the support of the LBGTTQ* community. A humble person, Shandi shares her story in the hopes that it will empower those in need and prevent misinformation about trans and gender fluid individuals. Shandi’s story begins the way most trans stories do, a realization at a very young age that their body and attitudes don’t match their gender identity. Most children are taught ‘gender rules’ from family, rules which often indicate stereotypes such as ‘boys like the color blue, enjoy sports and vehicles,’ whereas ‘girls like the color pink, enjoy makeup and dolls.’ She preferred to have tea parties and play the ‘damsel in distress’ as a child – activities commonly associated with femininity during that time period. Now for those whom are not familiar with the differences and significance of gender versus sex we’ll take a moment to explain. Sex is the biological makeup of an individual’s physical body whereas gender is the identity and expression of the person. If you refer to the diagram on the bottom right, you can see that identity, expression, sex and orientation are all different but all compose the overall identity of a person. Over the years Shandi struggled with her gender identity and expression. In her teen years her parents had caught her dressed in women’s clothing and sent her to a psychiatrist. As she grew older she buried her urges by getting married, having kids, and focusing on her job but the need to be herself never left. After 10 years and two children her first marriage dissolved. In her second marriage she was fortunate to have