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around and then they say that they did the right thing by doing
that.
One Sees Only Other’s Mistakes
Questioner: Many times, I feel that it is not my mistake.
Sometimes I can see my own mistake and sometimes I (lady
talking about her father) feel that it is not my mistake; I feel that
‘he’ is at fault.
Dadashri: Is that what you feel? Then what about while
you are doing pratikraman?
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Questioner: But when he experiences increasing mental
torment and restlessness, then I feel that I should not become a
nimit for that.
Dadashri: But you have to do pratikraman as if it is
your mistake.
Questioner: But I do not feel that I am at fault. I feel that
he is the one at fault.
Dadashri: Without a mistake, no one will get hurt. It is
because of our mistake that another person feels hurt.
Questioner: I feel that it is because of his prakruti that
he feels hurt.
Dadashri: You cannot consider the prakruti like that. All
these people say that his prakruti is good, whereas you are the
only one who says that his prakruti is bad. That, too, is a
roonanubandha account (link of karma from the past life).
Questioner: I feel that he has a habit of nagging.
Dadashri: That is why it is your fault – it is your mistake.
Why do you have to hurt your parents? That is why you have
to do pratikraman. They should not get hurt. You should have
in your mind that you have come to make them happy. You
should be inquiring, ‘What mistake did I make that keeps on