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[20] Awareness When Words are Flowing in Speech…
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Questioner: If I do not notice the effect of our
pratikraman on the other person, does that mean that I am not
doing it sincerely or is it because the other person has too many
veils on his Self?
Dadashri: Do not concern yourself about the state of the
other person. He may even be insane, who knows? You need
to be sure that you are not instrumental in hurting him.
Questioner: Therefore, should I attempt to bring about a
closure for any hurt I have caused him?
Dadashri: If you hurt the person, you will surely have to
amend the situation. That is indeed your responsibility. This life
of ours is not meant for hurting anyone.
From now on, you will not hurt others in the future. But
you will have to resolve the mistakes that have already occurred,
will you not?
Questioner: Even then, if the matter is not settled to his
satisfaction, how much of it is my responsibility?
Dadashri: If you can meet the person face to face and
apologize with humility, you should do so. However, if he taunts
you instead, you should realize that you are dealing with an
ignoble person. You must still resolve it, but it need not be done
face to face. If, while asking for his forgiveness in person, he
throws it back in your face, understand that you have made a
mistake. But because he is what he is, you should no longer bow
or belittle yourself in front of him.
Golden Inner Intent but Wrong in the Eyes
of the World
Do people suffer because of you?
Questioner: Yes, they do.
Dadashri: Do you realize that immediately?
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