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become too concerned about it, you will ruin your task. Your
task is to remain aware of the faults that happen.
Questioner: When we are very angry with someone, we
begin to talk negatively about him in his absence.
Dadashri: That is called ‘kashaya.’ When you come
under someone else’s control, it is kashaya. You have come
under the control of your inner enemies of anger, pride,
attachment, and greed. You realize that it is wrong to speak
negatively about someone in his absence, but you do it all the
same. Sometimes you will become aware of it and sometimes
it will pass, unnoticed. You become aware of it sooner or later.
This can only happen if you were the knower of the fault when
it was happening. The fact that you regret the event later, means
that you were in fact aware as a knower when the fault was
happening.
Questioner: In my office, I have three to four secretaries.
Despite multiple instructions on repeated occasions, they
continue to make the same mistake. This results in my getting
very angry and frustrated with them. What should I do?
Dadashri: You are now the pure Self, so how can you
become angry? It is ‘Chandulal’ who feels the anger, so you
should tell him, “You have met Dada now. What reason is there
for you to become so angry?”
Questioner: But my secretary does not improve at all.
Unless I say something to her, she will not change.
Dadashri: You can tell ‘Chandulal’ that he can scold his
secretary with equanimity. He should scold her in a make-believe
manner. He can even tell her that if she continues to be inefficient,
she risks losing her job.
Questioner: If I say that, she would feel hurt and you
have said that we should not hurt anyone.