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Teen Angst or Depression? Knowing the difference between normal teen angst and depres- sion is key. Teen depression is a serious mental health problem that causes a persistent feeling of sadness, self-neglect, loss of interest in activities, or isolated behavior and will affect how a teenager thinks, feels, and behaves. Suicide warning signs are displayed through talk, behavior, and mood. Warning signs can include: •  T  alk of being a burden to others or talk of having no reason to live • Increased substance abuse • Withdrawing from family or friends • Displaying aggression towards others •  Vague comments such as “No one will even care if I don’t show up tomorrow.” If you are a friend, you will more than likely become aware of these warning signs before a parent or adult. The fact is that when a young person is seeking help, validation, or guidance, they often turn to a peer first and reach out to their parents much later, if at all. How to Help Whether you're a friend, school professional, coach, or parent, no indication or sign should ever be disregarded or seem trivial. Your awareness and directly talking to someone you are concerned about could save a life. Don’t be shy—ask directly if they are thinking of death or contemplating suicide; that direct question just might be the open door they need to say, “Yes, and I wish I did not feel this way,” which opens the door to getting them the help they need. Allison Faircloth, Executive Director, Jennifer Claire Moore Foundation, graduated cum laude from the University of Alabama. Allison works with 50 peerHELPer Programs amongst 47 schools, 100 Program Coordinators and 1,200 Peer Helper students. She trains and consults on peerHELPer Program implementation and needs across the United States, serves on numerous committees including Baldwin County's Children Policy Council, Baldwin Community Alli- ance, and the South Baldwin Chamber Education Foundation Workforce Development Committee and is Chairperson for the Alabama Suicide Prevention Committee working to implement the Jason Flatt Act. DEALING WITH THE LOSS If you know someone who is grieving the loss of a friend or family member due to suicide, as with all grieving, support them by listening and remembering the person’s life and the happy memories versus focusing on the ifs and whys. There will always be questions of why and possible feelings of guilt, but we all must be reminded we cannot make a decision for someone else. As I am reminded by speaking with those who've been touched by suicide, many times you may never know the reason. If you or someone you love is having suicidal thoughts, reach out to the following organizations: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK Web: suicidepreventionlifeline.org Jennifer Claire Moore Foundation: 251-971-3633 Web: PeerHelpers.org FOCUS provided “How to Teach Students Suicide Prevention” for educators and social workers at FOCUS Rallies this fall. Student Breakout Sessions on the topic were also offered. For more information on these and other FOCUS programs, go to www.thefocusprogram.com Source: K-12 Facts.” Snapshot of U.S. Student Achievement, Center for Education Reform, Updated Feb. 2016, www.edreform.com/2012/04/k- 12-facts/. Tavernise, Sabrina. “U.S. Suicide Rate Surges to a 30-Year High.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 22 Apr. 2016, www.nytimes.com/2016/04/22/ health/us-suicide-rate-surges-to-a-30-year-high.html. www.potentialmagazine.com Winter 2017 | 41