Positive about Change July 2013 | Page 18

Re-igniting

Self Love

Can you feel

the spark?

By Natalie Forest

Can you feel that tingling in the

area of your belly button?

Can you feel that little vibration

going through you when hearing a compliment?

Can you feel that spark when you begin to talk about what you’re passionate about?

If so then the real question is: where are you allowing that to go once you’ve recognized it? The reason for this question is simple: so often we get those gut feelings, we know there’s more to us and what we do, and we so want to pursue something because it just feels right - and then … we let it go. We prevent ourselves from following that inner guidance because of … because of what?

If you’re like I was you may hand over your power of choice to someone else whom you consider more important or more knowledgeable; or you may hand your

power over to social conditioning, which really means you are allowing the trained behavior of FEAR to come in, swoop up your expertise, and adhere to convention.

This is a very common behavior in many of us but on the path of transformation, on the path back to ourselves we learn to reconnect with our own power and take it back. This is only possible though through the path of self-inquiry and returning to self-love.

When children are born they are born as love. They do not know fear or giving away their power until they are trained to do so by society. Fear indeed is a trained behavior from there forward. It is trained, most often by love. Our parents love us dearly so that a little warning such as, “don’t jump down from there or you’ll get hurt” is not meant in any other way but protective. Yet, it is the seed of fear.

As we get a little older society also helps us focus more on the Ego instead of our inner guidance. This means we are learning about judgment, especially self-judgment. More often than not society helps us focus on self-judgment with the intention, often but not always, to assist us in excelling based on the old masculine paradigm of competition and “beating the odds”.