Plunket Newsletter Spring 2013 | Page 5

3. Putting yourself first and say “No” more often Saying ‘No thanks’ with a smile is a very freeing feeling. It takes preparation and planning to say No with ease and grace so preparing a ‘go to’ phrase is important. Having a shared family schedule with your partner makes it easier if you scheduled in time for yourself in advance and your family is on board. Ensure you do at least one thing just for yourself regularly. Whether it be a yoga class, walking group or a regular movie date with some friends. Prioritise yourself first so you can be your own version of a super mum (without the mythical cape). It will take some planning and asking for help. Overcommitting myself was my biggest problem. Not a smart move. In the words of Dr Phil “If mama ain’t happy no one is happy”. What do I need to do to take care of myself? Besides exercise, eating well and adequate sleep, what else do you require to keep you sane and emotionally centred. For me it is the chance to escape to my bed with a book for a few hours and tune out from the world. I can highly recommend Gary Chapman’s Love Language’s quiz www.5lovelanguages.com. I realised that quality time is one of my love language’s so I booked myself a regular group of friends who go to the movies for the Chicks at the Flicks. What one thing can you schedule for yourself? Book it in now! Fiona Hall is a married mum of two boys and runs a business called Kiffin. She is in the process of completing her first book. “Ditch the mummy guilt” and will be running workshops for mums in Oct of 2013. To connect with Fiona -call 948 6278 Plunket Ponsonby / Herne Bay / Westmere / Grey Lynn / Pt Chevalier Newsletter