Playtimes HK Magazine May 2018 | Page 37

features W hat do you do when your kids misbehave? If your tween doesn’t tidy up after herself when asked multiple times, do you threaten to take her iPad away for a week? Or if your toddler whacks his sibling, do you confiscate his beloved toy? What if he does it again an hour later? Do you tell him he doesn’t get a bedtime story unless he behaves himself? Do these methods actually work? Hong Kong experts don’t seem to think so. If they worked, there would be no need to repeat them week in, week out, they point out. Time-outs are out; time-ins are in, they say. Yelling, spanking and confiscating prized possessions are out; compassion, connection and natural consequences are our only hope of raising cooperative, confident kids. What does this mean? What are we supposed to do when our offspring insist on breaking every rule in the book? The experts share the do’s and don’ts of disciplining children. May 2018 35