Platinum Kids January 2016 vol 1 May/June 2016 Vol 3 | Page 26

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Develop empathy. Remember what it was like when you were a teenager, multiply that by 10, and cut your teen some slack. At this crucial time in their lives, they're looking for someone to understand what they're going through. We all need understanding, but your teenager needs it a lot more than you can possibly imagine, and it needs to come from you. When they come home, stop what you're doing (no matter how important you think it is) and give them your undivided attention. Look them in the eye. Discipline yourself to stay focused on them and what they're saying, not on what you're going to say, and guard your response to them. It's often been said that people need others just to listen. They generally don't need you to fix their problems for them (they'll figure that out for themselves), but rather they need someone who'll listen and empathize with them. This is what your teen needs from you. And if you don't give this to them, they'll find someone who will.

Understand the pressures your teen is under. As much as it is hard for parents, it is hard on teenagers too. With all the homework and chores, sometimes your teenager will feel they don't have enough time to themselves. They may start suffering from stress or even depression. Talk to them and ask what is going on. If they refuse to talk to you about it, give them space, just let them know you are there for them.